Jeff Wilder
First Post
I think Mistwell is overstating things; pushing back unnecessarily in defense due to the misunderstandings of others. I think his basic premise -- "it's rude to refuse to enter a social environment because you don't trust the other attendees enough not to be buffoons, and you have no experience with these other attendees being buffoons in the past" -- is pretty much correct.I think Mistwell's position that one is obligated to accept an invitation is idiotic and outdated.
BTW, the reason I use "damned peculiar" instead of "rude" is that I'm a rude enough person -- speaking as objectively as I can -- that I don't tend to judge others' behavior as rude. I'm not exactly offended by Bumbles' stated behavior (though I intellectually understand why others are), but genuinely bemused and fascinated by it. As i said earlier, as I would be if I entered a house for a game and was told they played in the nude.