Harassment Policies: New Allegations Show More Work To Be Done

The specter of sexual harassment has once again risen up in tabletop gaming circles. Conventions are supposed to be places where gamers and geeks can be themselves and embrace their loves. Conventions need clear and well formulated harassment policies, and they need to enforce them. In this instance the allegations from multiple women have taken place at gaming conventions and gathering in different locations around the country. In one case, the harassment was took place over the course of years and spilled over into electronic formats.

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The specter of sexual harassment has once again risen up in tabletop gaming circles. Conventions are supposed to be places where gamers and geeks can be themselves and embrace their loves. Conventions need clear and well formulated harassment policies, and they need to enforce them. In this instance the allegations from multiple women have taken place at gaming conventions and gathering in different locations around the country. In one case, the harassment was took place over the course of years and spilled over into electronic formats.


The alleged harasser in these cases was Sean Patrick Fannon, President of Evil Beagle Games, Brand Manager for Savage Rifts at Pinnacle Entertainment Group, as well as being a game designer and developer with a long history in the tabletop role-playing industry.

There is a long and untenable policy of harassment at conventions that stretches back to science fiction and fantasy fandom in the 1960s. Atlanta's Dragon*Con has been a lightning rod in the discussions about safety at geeky conventions after one of the convention's founders was arrested and pled guilty to three charges of molestation. We have also covered reports of harassment at conventions such as Paizo Con, and inappropriate or harassing behavior by notable industry figures. It is clear that clear harassment policies and firm enforcement of them is needed in spaces where members of our community gather, in order that attendees feel safe to go about their hobby. Some companies, such as Pelgrane Press, now refuse to attend conventions where a clear harassment policy is not available.

Several women have approached me to tell me about encounters with Fannon. Some of them asked not to be named, or to use their reports for background verification only. We also reached out to Sean Patrick Fannon for his comments, and he was willing to address the allegations.

The women that I spoke with had encounters with Fannon that went back to 2013 and 2014 but also happened as recently as the summer of 2017. Each of the locations were in different parts of the country, but all of them occurred when Fannon was a guest of the event.

The worse of the two incidents related to me happened at a convention in the Eastern part of the United States. In going back over texts and messages stretching back years the woman said that it "is frustrating [now] to read these things" because of the cajoling and almost bullying approach that Fannon would use in the messages. She said that Fannon approached her at the con suite of the convention, and after speaking with her for a bit and playing a game with a group in the suite he showed her explicit photos on his cellphone of him engaged in sex acts with a woman.

Fannon's ongoing harassment of this woman would occur both electronically and in person, when they would both be at the same event, and over the course of years he would continue to suggest that she should engage in sexual acts, either with him alone, or with another woman.

Fannon denies the nature of the event, saying "I will assert with confidence that at no time would such a sharing have occurred without my understanding explicit consent on the part of all parties. It may be that, somehow, a miscommunication or misunderstanding occurred; the chaos of a party or social gathering may have created a circumstance of all parties not understanding the same thing within such a discourse. Regardless, I would not have opened such a file and shared it without believing, sincerely, it was a welcome part of the discussion (and in pursuit of further, mutually-expressed intimate interest)."

The second woman, at a different gaming-related event in another part of the country, told of how Fannon, over the course of a day at the event, asked her on four different occasions for hugs, or physical contact with her. Each time she clearly said no to him. The first time she qualified her answer with a "I don't even know you," which prompted Fannon after he saw her for a second time to say "Well, you know me now." She said that because of the multiple attempts in a short period of time that Fannon's behavior felt predatory to her. Afterwards he also attempted to connect with her via Facebook.

Afterwards, this second woman contacted the group that organized the event to share what happened and they reached out to Fannon with their concerns towards his behavior. According to sources within the organization at the time, Fannon - as with the first example - described it to the organizers as a misunderstanding on the woman's part. When asked, he later clarified to us that the misunderstanding was on his own side, saying "Honestly, I should have gotten over myself right at the start, simply owned that I misunderstood, and apologized. In the end, that's what happened, and I walked away from that with a pretty profound sense of how to go forward with my thinking about the personal space of those I don't know or know only in passing."

Both women faced ongoing pressure from Fannon, with one woman the experiences going on for a number of years after the initial convention meeting. In both cases he attempted to continue contact via electronic means with varying degrees of success. A number of screen shots from electronic conversations with Fannon were shared with me by both women.

Diane Bulkeley was willing to come forward and speak on the record of her incidents with Fannon. Fannon made seemingly innocent, and yet inappropriate comments about her body and what he wanted to do with her. She is part of a charity organization that had Fannon as a guest. What happened to her was witnessed by another woman with whom I spoke about that weekend. As Bulkeley heard some things, and her witness others, their experiences are interwoven to describe what happened. Bulkeley described this first encounter at the hotel's elevators: "We were on the floor where our rooms were to go downstairs to the convention floor. I was wearing a tank top and shirt over it that showed my cleavage. He was staring at my chest and said how much he loved my shirt and that I should wear it more often as it makes him hot. For the record I can't help my cleavage is there." Bulkeley went on to describe her mental state towards this "Paying a lady a compliment is one thing, but when you make a direct comment about their chest we have a problem."

Later on in the same day, while unloading some boxes for the convention there was another incident with Fannon. Bulkeley described this: "Well, [the witness and her husband] had to move their stuff from a friends airplane hangar (we all use as storage for cars and stuff) to a storage until next to their house. Apparently Sean, while at the hanger, made grunt noises about my tank top (it was 80 outside) while Tammy was in the truck. I did not see it. But she told me about it. Then as we were unloading the truck at the new facility Sean kept looking down my shirt and saying I have a great view etc. Her husband said to him to knock it off. I rolled my eyes, gave him a glare and continued to work. I did go and put on my event day jacket (light weight jacket) to cover up a little."

The witness, who was in the truck with Fannon, said that he "kept leering down at Diane, glancing down her shirt and making suggestive sounds." The witness said that Fannon commented "'I'm liking the view from up here.'"

Bulkeley talked about how Fannon continued his behavior later on in a restaurant, having dinner with some of the guests of the event. Fannon made inappropriate comments about her body and embarrassed her in front of the other, making her feel uncomfortable throughout the dinner.

Bulkeley said that Fannon also at one point touched her hair without asking, and smelled it as well. "[Fannon] even would smell my long hair. He begged me to not cut it off at a charity function that was part of the weekend's event." She said that he also pressed his pelvis tightly against her body while hugging her. These incidents occurred at a convention during the summer of 2017.

Fannon denies these events. "The comments and actions attributed to me simply did not happen; I categorically and absolutely deny them in their entirety."

When asked for comment, and being informed that this story was being compiled Fannon commented "I do not recall any such circumstance in which the aftermath included a discourse whereby I was informed of distress, anger, or discomfort." He went on to say "The only time I recall having ever been counseled or otherwise spoken to about my behavior in such matters is the Gamers Giving/Total Escape Games situation discussed above. The leader of the organization at that time spoke to me specifically, asked me to be aware that it had been an issue, and requested I be aware of it in the future. It was then formally dropped, and that was the end of it until this time."

There were further reports; however, we have respected the wishes of those women who asked to remain anonymous for fear of online harassment. In researching this article, I talked to multiple women and other witnesses.

About future actions against the alleged behaviors he also said "It is easy, after all, to directly attack and excise obviously predatory and harassing behavior. It is much more difficult to point out and correct behavior that falls within more subtle presentations, and it's more difficult to get folks to see their actions as harmful when they had no intention to cause harm, based on their assumptions of what is and isn't appropriate. It's good for us to look at the core assumptions that lead to those behaviors and continue to challenge them. That's how real and lasting change within society is achieved."

Fannon's weekly column will no longer be running on E.N. World.

Have you suffered harassment at the hands of someone, industry insider or otherwise, at a gaming convention? If you would like to tell your story, you can reach out to me via social media about any alleged incidents. We can speak confidentially, but I will have to know the identity of anyone that I speak with.

This does open up the question of: At what point do conventions become responsible for the actions of their guest, when they are not more closely scrutinizing the backgrounds of those guests? One woman, who is a convention organizer, with whom I spoke for the background of this story told me that word gets around, in the world of comic conventions, when guests and creators cause problems. Apparently this is not yet the case in the world of tabletop role-playing game conventions, because there are a growing number of publishers and designers who have been outed for various types of harassing behavior, but are still being invited to be guest, and in some cases even guests of honor, at gaming conventions around the country. The message that this sends to women who game is pretty clear.

More conventions are rolling out harassment policies for guests and attendees of their conventions. Not only does this help to protect attendees from bad behavior, but it can also help to protect conventions from bad actors within the various communities that gather at our conventions. As incidents of physical and sexual harassment are becoming more visible, it becomes more and more clear that something needs to be done.

additional editorial contributions by Morrus
 

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Hussar

Legend
Why are you more invested in rhetoric than in safety?

Hang on a tick here. Let's not go picking fights where none are needed. Disagreement is fine. Discussion is fine. There's no reason that points cannot be discussed. And, frankly, DannyA is making a pretty darn good point here. We've SEEN in this thread alone, numerous posts about how we need to be absolutely sure, how we need this incredibly high standard before we believe anything, so on and so forth.

It's ludicrous, but, people apparently actually believe this. You damage your own credibility when you start including examples that fit into their story. "See, look, [MENTION=8713]Afrodyte[/MENTION] isn't actually interested in protecting women or herself, she just wants to hate on men! We don't have to listen to her!"

Rhetoric MATTERS. How the point is explained matters. We've seen people in this thread (never minding other places) leap at any and all excuses to bury the lead in this issue. Giving them more ammunition is not helping anyone.

I think the only thing that needs really to be said here is, be aware of your words. You have everyone's attention in this thread. You certainly have mine. I'm pretty willing to ignore points for the larger issue because I'm bright enough not to get wrapped up in minutia (usually). But, that minutia just feeds the trolls. Don't feed the trolls is what I'm trying to say I guess.
 

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Lylandra

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I get you, Hussar. Rhetoric does matter per se. But what Afrodyte tries to point out is the oftentimes existing bias between male rhetoric and female rhetoric. That, for example, when a man says something that could be interpreted as "aggressive", he's instead seen as assertive, certain of his point, or, worse, "just being a man". Whereas when a woman uses the same tone and rhetoric, she's seen as hysterical, bitchy, or just an outright dragon. Because, "usually women are so much more kind, polite, caring etc then men" so if a woman speaks up "loudly", she's acting against her role.

I know that this holds true more in face-to-face environments, whereas online debates are often no more than mere black-on-white (or inversed) text. Still she identified as a woman. And from what I read, Afrodyte is done with playing the "nice little woman". She's (rightfully) upset about the fact that there are many victim-blaming posts or posts filled with micro-misogyny in this thread that were not being called out while her arguments were dissected. She's also under the impression that male-identifying posters are being less challenged and have it far easier being listened to.

And I understand her. Because being a woman who's active online, who has a mind of her own and who gets vocal from time to time can be hard.

That being said, I still think that ENWorld is one of the best places to discuss my/our hobby, including systemic problems in our community. And I'm really thankful for [MENTION=1]Morrus[/MENTION] and the other mods to keep it this civil.
(Because, honestly, other, more general gaming forums oftentimes look as if they're the little brethren of /b )
 

Hussar

Legend
Oh, hey, I get the frustration. Believe me. While I certainly haven't been subject to sexual harassment, my years of living as an expat (going on 20 years now) have certainly led to me being on the receiving end of more than my share of harassing behavior. And it can get really hard to separate out.

My point is just that we shouldn't be flinging poo at everyone and anyone. That's not constructive. And, let's be honest here, that particular example probably wasn't that great of one, which is all [MENTION=19675]Dannyalcatraz[/MENTION] was trying to say.

Deep breaths all the way around are probably a good idea.
 

Riley37

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That being said, I still think that ENWorld is one of the best places to discuss my/our hobby, including systemic problems in our community. And I'm really thankful for [MENTION=1]Morrus[/MENTION] and the other mods to keep it this civil.

On one hand, I won't discourage gratitude. As a general rule.

On another hand, here are two questions with a significant difference:
"Should we reduce harassment at cons? If so, how?"

If that's the question, then all of the answers along the lines "No, everything's fine, boys will be boys, that's just how cons work, we shouldn't get involved this side of a guilty verdict on a criminal charge" are fair and valid answers to the first half of the question, as the question was asked. Those answers tend to negate the second half.

If the question is "Stipulating that we want to reduce harassment at cons, how can we accomplish that goal?" then those answers are NOT appropriate nor helpful to the question as asked.

The volume of such answers, accepted as valid positions for debate and discussion, tells me that this thread is answering the first question, and mostly the first half of the first question.
 

Afrodyte

Explorer
I'd feel safer at a clothes-optional BDSM event full of people I've never met or interacted with than the vast majority of the men commenting on this thread. And they actually beat people.
 

UngainlyTitan

Legend
Supporter
I'd feel safer at a clothes-optional BDSM event full of people I've never met or interacted with than the vast majority of the men commenting on this thread. And they actually beat people.

This is the crux of the matter and the onus is to change the circumstances so that this person does not need to feel this way.
 

jasper

Rotten DM
....Sexual Harassment goes all ways people. female to male, male to female, male to male, female to female, higher rank to lower, lower rank to higher.
Sometimes what is someone’s joke it another harassment, aka depends on the receiver.
Sometimes a joke is a harassment.
I always take the report with a grain of salt and research both sides before I judge. Harassment does not need to meet the legal requirement to be corrected..........

Whataboutism and not all men, amirite?
NO YOU ARE WRONG SIR!
totally not cool and so far off the mark you are on the other side of the freaking world.
Thanksgiving Morning Fort Ord California 1983. I am an Army Cook. On the Staff E-6 male Pushing paperwork in the back. On the floor say 8 people with me being the only MALE on the floor. E-5 Female AKA the BOSS, my superior, etc. Comes up with me with a "Male Sexual Organ" made out of a Turkey neck and other parts. LET ME REPEAT THAT FOR THE SLOW ONES. MY BOSS MADE A DILDO OUT OF TURKEY PARTS.
She asks if my member is that size and what would I do if was. Then most of the rest of crew (all female) laughed. And made catty comments the rest of the shift.
So please just tell me Sexual harassment just goes one way.
So please just tell me not all men to dismiss the topic.

Now I would insult you. But I just need "you legal address, SSN, phone, and current picture"
 

Jeanneliza

First Post
....Sexual Harassment goes all ways people. female to male, male to female, male to male, female to female, higher rank to lower, lower rank to higher.
Sometimes what is someone’s joke it another harassment, aka depends on the receiver.
Sometimes a joke is a harassment.
I always take the report with a grain of salt and research both sides before I judge. Harassment does not need to meet the legal requirement to be corrected..........


NO YOU ARE WRONG SIR!
totally not cool and so far off the mark you are on the other side of the freaking world.
Thanksgiving Morning Fort Ord California 1983. I am an Army Cook. On the Staff E-6 male Pushing paperwork in the back. On the floor say 8 people with me being the only MALE on the floor. E-5 Female AKA the BOSS, my superior, etc. Comes up with me with a "Male Sexual Organ" made out of a Turkey neck and other parts. LET ME REPEAT THAT FOR THE SLOW ONES. MY BOSS MADE A DILDO OUT OF TURKEY PARTS.
She asks if my member is that size and what would I do if was. Then most of the rest of crew (all female) laughed. And made catty comments the rest of the shift.
So please just tell me Sexual harassment just goes one way.
So please just tell me not all men to dismiss the topic.

Now I would insult you. But I just need "you legal address, SSN, phone, and current picture"

I am sorry you had to experience that. No one should be demeaned or humiliated ever. No one should ever required to feel discomfort in their place or work or places of leisure.

But I have to ask, how many times has this happened to you in your life? You cited an instance back in 1983. ONE instance. Were you ever fired from a job for refusing an advance from a boss? if so that sucks, and it is damned hard to prove, especially in at will employment states.
Have you ever gone to the appropriate authorities with a complaint? How did they treat you when you did?
What other places have you been that you would like to see addressed here where this is soooo common that every man you speak to has a similar or worse story?

See, while I understand men have been and can be harassed, men can be and have been assaulted, here we need to address the scale. You cited an instance, I can't cite here every instance I have experienced something worse because ( I did the math this morning) I have lived 3237 weeks. I could list 3237 personal experiences of being harassed or assaulted or worse.

You seem to be under the mis-perception that because the issue of women being harassed here and we aren't being balanced about recognizing men too can suffer, have suffered, and probably will suffer (see Buddhism) that we don't believe they DO suffer. You would be wrong.

But again we come back to scale. And let me put this here for you. In a society where trying to address the daily harassment of women and other marginalized groups, to open societies eyes to what they have failed to recognize and address, gets shouted down, who exactly do you think are going to address the lesser scale harassment of the gender that wields most of the power to make corrections? Or more bluntly, in a society who doesn't care about the suffering of those who can't defend themselves, who do you think should care more about the suffering of those who would be perceived as more ABLE to protect themselves? See as long as society isn't addressing the MASSIVE issue of harassment, assault and murder of the weak, do you think they are going to address the same issues among the strong more quickly?
Reality is, once changes are made you will be safer as well. But as long as you don't address the pandemic, the epidemic will go untreated.
 

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Sunseeker

Guest
I'd feel safer at a clothes-optional BDSM event full of people I've never met or interacted with than the vast majority of the men commenting on this thread. And they actually beat people.

But they "beat people" with affirmative consent. It's pretty much the basis for BDSM.
 


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