As you have seen, what is realistic in this situation is pretty debatable. I am on Hussars side and think many people will find a way to rationalize how this is not so bad in order to stay alive and sane.
Try this:
Your government sends police and soldiers into Your home to take Your child as a sacrifice to aliens. You and your child somehow escape, or your kidnapped child is eventually returned to you.
What bribe could any government possibly offer you as a sop to allow you to permit the government that tried to steal and murder your child to continue to exist?
Obviously, the government does not respect your rights as citizens, humans, or parents.
If the writing is consistently good, or works within a story, I'm all for it. Heck, classic Who and the Star Trek ToS had all sorts of continuity problems and inconsistencies from episode to episode. But during each individual story, they worked. Some were better than others, but they worked. NuWho (and Torchwood), but chaining all the stories together into one continuous drama, must operate in a totally consistent way, across all stories or episodes, in order to work. The inconsistent nature of writers, rules, and plots has seriously detracted from the stories. Other choices have been to the detriment of the series as well. (Series 5 was so bad I was prepared to abandon NuWho altogether. I tried series 6 to see if they could salvage the wreckage, and series 7 in order to see the 50th anniversary).
I've gone over my objections to the show in other threads, and don't feel like retreading the same arguments.
I would like them to ditch the idea of Season Arcs in favor of just writing good episodes. (if the arc works, fine, but it isn't necessary)