Lychee of the Exch.
Explorer
I am not insinuating anything. I am just not taking other people's experiences as if they provide some unassailable proof of the way the universe is.I am glad that the affronts that you have experienced have been things that you could shake off. But you have used some language here that is really kind of awful, because you are insinuating things about others' experiences.
Why should I ? Because they really feel what they feel ?
As human beings, we all really feel what we feel.
For example, the majority of educated white people of the XIXth century felt that black people were some kind of primitive beings, defined by their close proximity to animals.
That's what they felt. So what a progressive man or woman of the XIXth century was supposed to do about these feelings ? Would it have been right for these progressives to not defend the cause of the black people simply because their fellow whites could then have said to them: "You know, I really feel that black people are sub-humans. That's been my experience of them all my life. You really offend me by denying my experience. You're really being foolish and impolite, and I won't discuss with you any further".
That you, me, or anyone else feel something does not mean we're right or wrong in any objective way. Logic, reflexive thought and analysis are needed too to make sense of the world, and relying only on our feelings to do that would plunge us into hysterical chaos.
But in confronting our different worldviews, we could come to a point where they are not mutually exclusive.
I think that black people are people like every other people. I think people are people and they should be treated like they deserve, based on their actions - and with kindnesse, love and understanding because the world is a better place with those emotions in it.
I'm not gonna tiptoe around black people, or people of wathever color, because they are or have been victims of grave injustices, and so are essentially and forever victims deserving of special treatment. I'm not gonna take everything they say uncritically because that's their experience.
In other words, people of whatever color are not essentially victims, and I am not their savior nor their torturer (the "karpman drama triangle" may be of use here for you to understand what I'm talking about).