I find that my own blood pressure is reduced and my own enjoyment of these forums is heightened when I choose a more charitable interpretation of what someone is trying to communicate. If I am struggling to do so, I (try my best to) refrain from replying until I give myself a break and come up with a more measured response or simply decide not to respond at all.
For example, one might uncharitably interpret your reference to the "complete a**" in your first paragraph as an not-so-subtle analog to
@Charlaquin. Me, I'm going to choose not to interpret it that way and go back to reading what others are saying here that might help me either 1. learn something new or 2. strengthen what I already know about my table's own desired playstyle. If you try it, you might like it.