Bill Zebub
“It’s probably Matt Mercer’s fault.”
You are generating a binary when I am asking about a spectrum (why do people keep doing that?). I am asking you if you require zero mechanical influence on your character in social situations in order for the game to be enjoyable for you. Not complete control outside magic, but rather some degree of influence on your actions based on the circumstances of the moment. If zero is your requirement, to me that does sound like the kind of avatar play @Thomas Shey referenced earlier.
You didn't ask me, but my requirement isn't "zero" it's that if there's a mechanical impact, then the effect should also be mechanical. Mechanics determining permissible roleplaying is just too vague. So I'm totally fine with "the outcome of the NPC's social roll is the following modifier to dice rolls...". What I'm not ok with "we rolled dice so now you have to roleplay your character as if you believe X."
That's why things like mind control spells, or a Dragon's fear, are ok in my book.
The reference to avatar play suggests you don't think it's possible for somebody to roleplay without the mechanics telling them what to do. I would argue that other players might have their suspicions, but only the player knows if they engaging in avatar play or not. I find it insulting not because there is anything wrong with avatar play, but rather the implication that some of us are not capable of anything else, or at least that when we don't want mechanics dictating our actions it is so that we can engage exclusively in avatar play.






