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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Korgoth" data-source="post: 5003656" data-attributes="member: 49613">I sympathize regarding the issue of religious gamers because I am one. The issue is complicated because a religion will identify certain moral absolutes, but each person who is a believer will also have an individual temperment. For example, the health of a person's prayer life and the amount of time they devote to the study of sacred texts is not necessarily connected to whether they drink alcohol, smoke stogies or habitually speak in a loud and strident manner. You might have a timid backslider or a raucous saint.Some of the issues might actually be issues of temperment. For example, my EPT group contains those who habitually use invective and those who rarely (or in one case never) do; some who espouse dangerously erroneous religious and political views and others who are right-thinking and just. But we're all of the appropriate temperment to get along... and there have been a few who were of incompatible temperment who sadly ended up departing our company voluntarily. I would have preferred if they stayed (though there's 8 in the group including me, so we're not in any trouble) but that's how it goes sometimes.A person might have made a prudential judgment to avoid the society of people who do X or Y; that could be a purely rational judgment unrelated to their temperment. So it won't do to be dismissive in any case.I suppose the bottom line is that if you feel that you or your group engage in disreputable behavior, now is an opportunity to shape up. But if you behave in a reputable fashion, as reasonable adults, then you're not really bound to change much to accomodate this newcomer (regardless of the merits of her theological ideas). If your group behaves reasonably then it's up to this girl to decide if she likes the group enough to deal with your foibles (whatever those happen to be; we all have them). If she is presented with a reasonable environment in which to socialize and decides that it isn't what she's looking for, then that's OK for her.</blockquote>

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