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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Dausuul" data-source="post: 5004100" data-attributes="member: 58197">Mmf. I see where you're coming from, but I'm also not inclined to bend over backwards (or tell the OP to do so) to accommodate someone who is, well, to put it diplomatically, pretty clearly not in sync with the group. And I've seen the "tag-along significant other" dynamic in action before. I don't think it's unreasonable to consider the strong probability that that's what's going on here.This part I do agree with. As I mentioned upthread, the "tag-along significant other" comes in two flavors - you might call them Push and Pull. Pushes try to insert themselves into the game, so as to make sure their SOs aren't having fun without them. Pulls are dragged reluctantly into the game by SOs who don't quite grasp the idea that just because you date people doesn't mean they want to do everything you do.On balance, I think this is more likely a Pull than a Push. And that's not necessarily a bad thing. I've known a number of gamers who were pulled in by significant others and then embraced the game for its own sake. But there's always potential for a massive train wreck, and Jane's attitude makes me think it's more likely than not.To which I reply, "True, but we also shouldn't ignore the possibility of malice* when the situation suggests it might be a factor."[SIZE=-2]*Or jealousy/control issues, which is a better description than "malice."[/SIZE]</blockquote>