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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Engilbrand" data-source="post: 5004290" data-attributes="member: 44184">I like to swear. I have a group of friends who are predominantly Christian. Around them, I tone it back a lot. I ran some D&D for them a few years ago, and it went really well. I was running some Eberron modules, and I matched the game to what they expected. It was fun.As a player, though, in a preestablished group, I'm not going to change the way that I do things. If I'm being a douche as a person and a friend points it out, then I'll stop. If I'm not, then I'm not going to change. If I were told that someone was bringing in a girlfriend, and she expected me not to swear or make any comment that could remotely be construed as sexual, I would refuse. Not a problem.DM- "Hey, Mark. Jake wants to bring his girlfriend in. I told him that it would be okay on a trial basis. She has some conditions. As you know, she and Jake are rather religious, so she wants the game to be PG. She doesn't want to hear any swear words, and she doesn't want any sexual comments to be made."Me- "HA! That's too damn bad. That's not the game that we've been playing, so that wouldn't be fair. Also, f___ that. If she joins us, she'll need to get over it. Will I tone it down a bit for a while as I get to know her? Absolutely. But if she calls me out on anything, I'll let her know exactly what the issue is."Does that make me seem like a douche? Possibly. The people who know me know exactly what to expect, though. In a way, I would consider Jake an idiot if he didn't expect me to act this way, especially because I would be upfront about everything.Recommendation: Tell her that she will need to get along with the group and it will be up to her to ask people to change the game. If they want to, fine. If they refuse, then she doesn't have a right to complain.I don't believe that personal religious convictions have anything to do with a roleplaying game. I hold a lot of very traditional values, but I don't play my characters that way. I'm not religious, but I've played religious characters in a few different ways. (Dogs in the Vineyard rocks!) In much the same way that I wouldn't swear if I were entering a very conservative game and was asked not to swear beforehand, she shouldn't expect for her convictions to be allowed to trump the other people in the group.</blockquote>

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