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<blockquote data-quote="Lord Pendragon" data-source="post: 2763462" data-attributes="member: 707"><p>If you don't tell the husband about this, then you are not his friend. Close, distant, whatever, no kind of friend keeps that kind of information to himself. And if you do keep it to yourself and he finds out, then he'll <em>know</em> you're not his friend.</p><p></p><p>So if you want to keep him as your friend, you tell him. If not, or if you'd rather keep the wife/make-out partner as your friend, you don't.</p><p></p><p>It's unfortunate, but I don't really think there's any way for you to get out of this situation with all three friends. The two on the couch have intentionally made you partisan to their activities, and you need to choose whether to follow along, or turn away.</p><p></p><p>That's just from the loyalty angle.</p><p></p><p>Morally, I've been in this situation before, and I generally don't judge friends and how they conduct their romantic lives. If they <em>ask</em> for advice or my opinion, then I give them the honesty a friend deserves. But if they choose not to discuss it with me, then a friend knows when not to pry. I am not my friends' mothers or priests. I don't try and assume that role.</p><p></p><p>Lastly, there's your discomfort. You have a history, and regardless of any other issues, you don't like to see someone cheating on their mate in your home.</p><p></p><p>So because it makes you uncomfortable, you tell them to knock it off in your home.</p><p>And if you are more loyal to the husband, you tell him, because that's what friends do.</p><p> If you're more loyal to the wife/make-out partner, you don't tell the husband.</p><p> If you don't feel like any of the three of them are really your friends, then you find better people to game with. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lord Pendragon, post: 2763462, member: 707"] If you don't tell the husband about this, then you are not his friend. Close, distant, whatever, no kind of friend keeps that kind of information to himself. And if you do keep it to yourself and he finds out, then he'll [i]know[/i] you're not his friend. So if you want to keep him as your friend, you tell him. If not, or if you'd rather keep the wife/make-out partner as your friend, you don't. It's unfortunate, but I don't really think there's any way for you to get out of this situation with all three friends. The two on the couch have intentionally made you partisan to their activities, and you need to choose whether to follow along, or turn away. That's just from the loyalty angle. Morally, I've been in this situation before, and I generally don't judge friends and how they conduct their romantic lives. If they [i]ask[/i] for advice or my opinion, then I give them the honesty a friend deserves. But if they choose not to discuss it with me, then a friend knows when not to pry. I am not my friends' mothers or priests. I don't try and assume that role. Lastly, there's your discomfort. You have a history, and regardless of any other issues, you don't like to see someone cheating on their mate in your home. So because it makes you uncomfortable, you tell them to knock it off in your home. And if you are more loyal to the husband, you tell him, because that's what friends do. If you're more loyal to the wife/make-out partner, you don't tell the husband. If you don't feel like any of the three of them are really your friends, then you find better people to game with. ;) [/QUOTE]
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