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<blockquote data-quote="Oryan77" data-source="post: 2763863" data-attributes="member: 18701">I wouldn't stress over it too much. People throw the word &quot;friend&quot; around a lot, but the way I see it, friends don't do this to friends. They should never have put you in this position. They are obviously selfish people. If they weren't selfish, they wouldn't be cheating on the husband (wow, newlyweds makes it worse), they wouldn't be making out in your house (whether they are cheating or not), and they wouldn't make you a part of this by making the affair public. They don't respect you or the husband.It doesn't mean you are obligated to be the one to tell the husband. It just means that you don't need to care about the wife and player. At this point, I would only worry about the husband and do what you think is best for that poor guy. Personally, I don't think the husband deserves living a lie. I would like to know ASAP if it was happening to me. That way I could move on without wasting more time with the woman and screwing myself. He WILL find out whether by you or on his own. She WILL keep cheating, whether with the player or with someone else. But when will he find out? After they start pumping out kids and now the kids have to live in a disfunctional family? If this woman is already cheating so early in the marriage, this is the path those couple are going down. Maybe you can talk to the wife about it and let her know how she's now brought her problems down on you and that's unfair. Ask her to tell her husband that she's cheating, or tell her that you aren't comfortable hanging out with her anymore if she doesn't tell him. Maybe you can get out of telling her husband. If she chooses not to tell him and never hang out with you; you just learned she was never your friend. If she had kept the affair hidden from you, or at least tried, it would have shown she at least respects you as a friend.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Oryan77, post: 2763863, member: 18701"] I wouldn't stress over it too much. People throw the word "friend" around a lot, but the way I see it, friends don't do this to friends. They should never have put you in this position. They are obviously selfish people. If they weren't selfish, they wouldn't be cheating on the husband (wow, newlyweds makes it worse), they wouldn't be making out in your house (whether they are cheating or not), and they wouldn't make you a part of this by making the affair public. They don't respect you or the husband. It doesn't mean you are obligated to be the one to tell the husband. It just means that you don't need to care about the wife and player. At this point, I would only worry about the husband and do what you think is best for that poor guy. Personally, I don't think the husband deserves living a lie. I would like to know ASAP if it was happening to me. That way I could move on without wasting more time with the woman and screwing myself. He WILL find out whether by you or on his own. She WILL keep cheating, whether with the player or with someone else. But when will he find out? After they start pumping out kids and now the kids have to live in a disfunctional family? If this woman is already cheating so early in the marriage, this is the path those couple are going down. Maybe you can talk to the wife about it and let her know how she's now brought her problems down on you and that's unfair. Ask her to tell her husband that she's cheating, or tell her that you aren't comfortable hanging out with her anymore if she doesn't tell him. Maybe you can get out of telling her husband. If she chooses not to tell him and never hang out with you; you just learned she was never your friend. If she had kept the affair hidden from you, or at least tried, it would have shown she at least respects you as a friend. [/QUOTE]

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