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<blockquote data-quote="Rel" data-source="post: 3195147" data-attributes="member: 99">I'm just getting back to this thread from Thanksgiving vacation.&nbsp; Sorry for the delay.I wasn't slamming others as immature.&nbsp; I was saying that when we were younger we had fewer demands on our time.&nbsp; When somebody missed &quot;The Game&quot; it was usually done because something fun came up at the last minute and we figured, &quot;Hey, the game will be there next week!&nbsp; This keg party is TONIGHT!&quot;&nbsp; The sentiment was that it wasn't cool to dump a prior obligation at the last minute when your absense would detract from everbody else's fun.&nbsp; So we felt no qualms about imposing some kind of penalty.Nowadays our lives are very scheduled.&nbsp; We work, we pick up the kids, we take them to piano, we put them to bed, etc.&nbsp; We don't get to see each other three or four days a week and the time we get to spend hanging out and gaming is pretty valuable to us.&nbsp; Nobody blows that off lightly for the most part and most of the time when somebody can't make it, the call or e-mail is prefaced with, &quot;This totally sucks but I'm not going to be able to make it tonight.&quot;At some point we mutually decided that penalizing them for not showing up like that is kind of kicking them when they're down.&nbsp; We still expect (and get) the common courtesy of a phone call if they can't make it but beyond that we kind of just say, &quot;Bummer dude.&nbsp; We'll try not to get your character killed.&nbsp; See you next week.&quot;</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Rel, post: 3195147, member: 99"] I'm just getting back to this thread from Thanksgiving vacation. Sorry for the delay. I wasn't slamming others as immature. I was saying that when we were younger we had fewer demands on our time. When somebody missed "The Game" it was usually done because something fun came up at the last minute and we figured, "Hey, the game will be there next week! This keg party is TONIGHT!" The sentiment was that it wasn't cool to dump a prior obligation at the last minute when your absense would detract from everbody else's fun. So we felt no qualms about imposing some kind of penalty. Nowadays our lives are very scheduled. We work, we pick up the kids, we take them to piano, we put them to bed, etc. We don't get to see each other three or four days a week and the time we get to spend hanging out and gaming is pretty valuable to us. Nobody blows that off lightly for the most part and most of the time when somebody can't make it, the call or e-mail is prefaced with, "This totally sucks but I'm not going to be able to make it tonight." At some point we mutually decided that penalizing them for not showing up like that is kind of kicking them when they're down. We still expect (and get) the common courtesy of a phone call if they can't make it but beyond that we kind of just say, "Bummer dude. We'll try not to get your character killed. See you next week." [/QUOTE]

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