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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Rel" data-source="post: 2337702" data-attributes="member: 99">On the one hand there is the sex thing (we can probably do without the obvious jokes that this sentence raises).  The fact is that men and women sometimes like each other and sometimes they like each other in that very special way.  Girls are great.  Gamers are great.  Girl Gamers are really great and my wife is one so I know what I'm talking about.If a girl gamer joins a group then there is a good chance that one of the guys in said group is looking for a relationship and some overtures are likely to be made.  This is just the way of the world and there is nothing wrong with it.  Women might say, "look I didn't join this gaming group to get hit on."  That's fine but irrelevant.  You might not have gone out to a dance club or the grocery store to get hit on either but a guy there might find you attractive and ask you out regardless.  If you say "No" and he persists then he's a jerk but that's beside the point.  In life there will be folks who find you attractive and make advances.  It's a compliment so just accept it as such and move on.Another thing that I think can be a contributing factor is that many (if not most) guys in gaming have seen a woman come into the game who was less interested in the actual gaming and more interested in being there with her boyfriend/husband.  Whether this was a matter of just wanting to be able to spend more time with him or trying to control him or (in the worst cases) seeking to poison the group so that it will disband and she can extract her man from the hobby, she was clearly not all that interested in actual gaming.As a result many guys might have some suspicions that a female gamer entering the group could have other motives besides gaming.  Compounding this, because girl gamers may have been treated this way, they might have a chip on their shoulder about it.  This is a very fragile situation.So, coming from a guy, my advice to girl gamers would be this:  Try and be tollerant.  Expect that upon entering a new group that somebody might hit on you.  Be good natured but firm in whatever your desires are regarding this.  It's a compliment, not harassment in most cases.  Show your interest in the game.  When you start quoting rules or engaging in good roleplaying the guys will probably get over any hangups or preconceptions that they might have.  Eventually everybody will sort things out and you'll all just be killing things and taking their stuff the way God intended it.</blockquote>

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