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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Umbran" data-source="post: 5526936" data-attributes="member: 177">Two things:1) Rule #1 about other people's relationships - even if you regularly talk to one of the people in question, don't expect you have the story straight.  Consider: there's what the guy is thinking, then what he said, then what she heard, then what she told you, then what you heard. I have seen perceptions get horribly mutilated in just those short steps - especially that last one.  It's a doozy, because you have a vested interest in her current relationship failing.Maybe he's a nozzle, maybe he's not - short of him being outright abusive, that isn't your business. 2) Long-distance relationships are not for everyone.  I managed one for four years, with a thousand miles between us.  The only reason it worked was we knew that separation would end when she finished grad school.  I would not think poorly of anyone who decided that they didn't want a committed, long-distance relationship.  Relationships require contact to maintain - so eventually someone has to move.</blockquote>