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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Tia Nadiezja" data-source="post: 6771491" data-attributes="member: 6778763">I feel a need to respond very specifically to this... well, sentence fragment. I know I'm quoting part of a sentence and a parenthetical, but please bear with me, because there's two details here I want to deal with.1. "DM's sex life." No. Just no. Seriously. Is it talking about someone's "sex life" when they bring up their wife's job, their children's grades? Both those things imply that, yes, sex has happened at some point in their lives, and with a specific partner, but... no, it's not talking about their sex life. Neither is a poly person talking about their partners, and it's frankly offensive when people immediately jump to "this is about sex!" when poly folks talk about the same day-to-day life stuff monogamous people do. I don't know the details of what the OP's DM talked about, and neither do you, so jumping immediately to "sex life" is neither good nor accurate.2. "Not in the business of giving out advice..." I think that the fact that AL as an organization is, quite rightly, not in that business makes public conversations of this nature, among players and DMs who will have to deal with the gritty moment to moment realities not of rules and guidelines but of what happens when you sit down at a table with dice and character sheets and actual living breathing human beings who bring their lives with them to the table, all the more valuable. I don't speak for AL. I never have, I don't have to, and that in and of itself means that I - and others in this forum, including people who don't agree with me - can offer that advice, can tell people good ways, based on their own experiences, to handle situations at the table that they might find uncomfortable or difficult. Because these situations will come up, and people having read advice about them before walking into them will make what happens at the table when they do more easily resolved and more amicable.</blockquote>

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