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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Ulrick" data-source="post: 4542737" data-attributes="member: 775">The idea for this thread started when a friend of mine started talking about how gamers would always want to talk about their favorite character.  She didn't understand why gamers used this as a pick-up line. See, I learned years ago that people (both gamers and nongamers) really don't want to hear about my character unless they specifically ask me.That got me thinking about other gamer stereotypes that might hinder their inclusion into social situations outside of gaming. This thread is not meant to offend anybody.  I would like, however, to help gamers overcome the anti-social unwashed stigma that I've encountered over my 20 year history as a gamer. Think of what is said here as advice for the average gamer who wants to interact with society.  Much of what I'll say stems from trial and error as an introverted gamer struggling to come out of my proverbial shell.  And I hope to help others do the same. With that said, here are guidelines for gamers interacting with society:A gamer...1. ...should not talk about his or her character unless specifically asked.  A non-gamer just doesn't understand why a certain character is so awesome.  Mentioning a favorite character on a first date will quickly make it a last date. 2. ...should not solely talk about RPGs and gaming.  It's okay to reveal that you're a gamer.  The hobby has become more mainstream since I started playing.  Just don't go into a whole lot of detail about the hobby--unless specifically asked. If person gets glazed look in their eye, it might be time to talk about something else. Don't let your hobby dominate a conversation. Which leads too...3. ...should talk about his or her other hobbies/job/past times, etc. A gamer should know that gaming should not take over his or her life.  In fact, participating in other activities will help the gamer become diversified and well-rounded.  If a gamer does not have any activities outside of gaming, should find some. 4. ...needs to maintain personal hygiene! This is the worst of the stereotypes. Unfortunately there is truth to it. 5. ...should not gawk at members of the opposite sex. In my personal experience, I've witnessed entire rooms of male gamers hush and swivel their heads at the sound of a female voice...and continue staring. Which is often uncomfortable for the person being stared at.6. ...should realize that going around dressed in black and pretending to be a vampire is not a social norm. Don't get upset when people express concern and not want to put up with it. Yes, this mainly geared toward Larpers playing in a public area. Over years I've repeatedly watched some larpers get booted out of a given area and wonder why. 7. ...does not try to defend their hobby against somebody who thinks its Satanic. Fortunately, much of the Satanic Panic is long gone, but I still encounter people who condemn me for my hobby. It's best to ignore them and walk away. If they persist, just tell them that their behavior is unacceptable and avoid them if possible. Confrontation should be a last option, if an option at all. Well, those are the seven that I can think of at the moment.  Feel free to post your own and discuss.Edit: A gamer should also realize when he posts in the wrong forum!  Would the mods please move this thread to the right forum, perhaps General RPG Discussion... My apologies!</blockquote>

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