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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Kobold Boots" data-source="post: 5563538" data-attributes="member: 92239">I've made some horrible faux pas over the years by looking for very specific personality types and social arrangements for my groups whether it be "married couples only" or "couples only" or "extroverted types only".  When recruiting gamers with specific traits it's better to have the people in your group with that trait take an active face role in recruiting even if you're doing all the grunt work.  Otherwise you really need to approach it like a very loose job interview where you don't tell anyone what you're looking for, but you discriminate quietly based on your needs.in the cases where I've had multiple women in my group it all started by knowing females that game (via larping or some other gaming type hobby) and hanging with them.  Most will try one session and it's your responsibility at that point to show that you can tell a story that they want to play in.   Be very careful when developing relationships to be very inclusive of their significant others. (true of either gender but especially so when you're recruiting your opposite sex)  In the majority of cases, if you want a more diverse group it's often about becoming better friends with the people you aren't initially looking to add to the mix.  Point is, you don't want to be seen as some creep that scams girlfriends (as others have already alluded to.)</blockquote>