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Message: <blockquote data-quote="I'm A Banana" data-source="post: 5276400" data-attributes="member: 2067">I don't mind being the object of an audience's sexual fantasy every once in a while. And I recognize the "star athlete vs. untamed male" archetypes rooting around in that core. I'm more offended by the horrible plotting and writing and pseudoreligious overtones than I am by the fact that fourteen year old girls and their mom are all a-twitter over some shirtless sixteen year old. I don't actually find it very offensive, personally. Maybe a little sad on the part of the mothers, is all. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" />I recognize that people have a right to be off-put by whatever they feel off-put by, and my game-tables are inclusive places, so I want to make it as little off-putting as possible to every player there. That's not something I think you can really control for outside of the individual player, though. There are women who find that underpants pirate above empowering because, hey, she is a fickin' captain, and she is clearly in control of that whole ship (with its phallic knobs), and she gets to do what she wants, which means wearing as little as possible in the warm tropical climates and still having he authority and power respected on the ship and feared on the high seas beyond. There are women who would be pretty offended by that underpants pirate. I'd be pretty offended by her, personally, but I don't like it when an artist uses cheap skin. In the former case, I play up that capatain's heroic qualities, in the latter case, I apologize, and either change the captain, or play down the her offensive qualities. I'm not really going to be able to know in advance if it's fine or not. The most I can do is consider my own reasoning for using it. That way, even if a player and I end up having different thresholds for it, I can at least give my reasons, apologize, and move on. Keep it in mind for the future, and only worry about getting rid of it now.I believe that one of the risks you take in engaging with other humans is that you might possibly be offended. If that's not a risk worth taking, I don't know why you'd try something as social as a gametable, or even a house party. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" /></blockquote>

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