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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Darthjaye" data-source="post: 2887495" data-attributes="member: 16789">Knowing Treebore, I can honestly say what I'm sure he meant.   He is good people.  He just meant that you can't blame or use anyone else as a scape goat or say anyone gave up on you.   When you do this, sometimes you can feel it's easy to just let go or give in cause someone else "deems" it so or let it happen.  You merely have to pick yourself up and dust off and trudge on.   Saying whatever all powerful belief isn't there for you may not be so accurate.   After all, it could be worse.   Things happen in good and bad cycles.  Mega, it happens, I had a situation where things went downhill (in about a year and a half's time) with my life for a while too.   Found out I was diabetic (the hard way as I got pretty sick before we found out), my engagement fell apart (cheating partner not unlike yours), and then when we felt everything was not working out, we sat down and agreed that it would be best to split and share custody of our (at the time) almost 2 year old boy (the "batman" pictured in my avatar).    At that point things weren't great, but they weren't quite horrible....yet.   A week after our talk, she takes our son and disappears.   It took me a week and a half, but I tracked her down and brought my son home.   That same summer, I get involved in a head on collision at about 35 mph, and end up losing my job as the place I worked for sold and the new owner never got to meet me in the time I was out, so he didn't hire me on with the restaurant.  Then went through a tough custody battle that I ultimately gained full custody of my son .   And almost topping it off, my mom (whom my son and I were living with at the time) lost her stake in the house her and her ex had bought (his kids had paperwork he signed to give her the house upon his death thrown out somehow) so we had to move out.  As well, the very next spring my dad passes away from what seemed to have been initially, a successful heart bypass.   Bad yearish.   But, good news.   Beginning that August (of this last year mind you) my case against the guy who hit me settled and put a bit of money in my pocket as well as covering all my medical bills.   I started getting better physically (from both the accident and getting my diabetees under control), I found a great job, and most other things in my life have swung pretty well towards the good.  Heck, even the sister that wasn't talking to the family for years began talking to us again.      In short, things do get better.   Once and a great while during it, I faltered a tad, but never gave up.  Blank happens, just ride it out and keep your chin above the waterline.None of this is meant to "one up you" by the way.  Merely to point out it happens and if I had just said "buck up little trooper" without so much as a understanding of your position, it would have come off as possibly phoney or as pity.       <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f600.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":D" title="Big grin    :D"  data-smilie="8"data-shortname=":D" /></blockquote>

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