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<blockquote data-quote="Sacrosanct" data-source="post: 8030327" data-attributes="member: 15700">No, that's not a fact.&nbsp; It's a stereotype.&nbsp; As someone who's lived for several years in an Asian country, it sure seemed to me like it was an individual parent thing rather than a hivemind culture thing to &quot;grin and bear it&quot;.&nbsp; There were just as many Asians who complained about things as there were Americans, or Europeans when I lived in Germany.&nbsp; People are people.&nbsp; Ascribing a stereotype convenient to your argument is bad.&nbsp; Stop doing it.&nbsp; And while I can't speak for others, if I were one of these Asian posters in these threads who didn't agree with you, and you dismissed my feelings based on you telling me how my culture actually is, I'd probably feel insulted.Edit&nbsp; In fact, I'd go further and say it's a harmful stereotype on similar grounds to the &quot;Asians are good at math&quot; stereotype.&nbsp; I.e., it sets up an unfair expectation.&nbsp; An unfair bar raised higher than anyone else has to reach.&nbsp; &quot;Your culture is to just grin and bear it&quot; means &quot;you shouldn't complain about things and if you do you failed somehow, when others are allowed to complain and it's socially acceptable for them.&quot;</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Sacrosanct, post: 8030327, member: 15700"] No, that's not a fact. It's a stereotype. As someone who's lived for several years in an Asian country, it sure seemed to me like it was an individual parent thing rather than a hivemind culture thing to "grin and bear it". There were just as many Asians who complained about things as there were Americans, or Europeans when I lived in Germany. People are people. Ascribing a stereotype convenient to your argument is bad. Stop doing it. And while I can't speak for others, if I were one of these Asian posters in these threads who didn't agree with you, and you dismissed my feelings based on you telling me how my culture [I]actually [/I]is, I'd probably feel insulted. [I]Edit[/I] In fact, I'd go further and say it's a harmful stereotype on similar grounds to the "Asians are good at math" stereotype. I.e., it sets up an unfair expectation. An unfair bar raised higher than anyone else has to reach. "Your culture is to just grin and bear it" means "you shouldn't complain about things and if you do you failed somehow, when others are allowed to complain and it's socially acceptable for them." [/QUOTE]

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