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Message: <blockquote data-quote="I'm A Banana" data-source="post: 1729755" data-attributes="member: 2067">Usury is a sin, right? <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> And yeah, the cultural reasons/ramifications of living with one's parents or not are deep-seated, and very intriguing, since they run through many viens of life. A lot of the reason I know people I am around don't want to live with their parents is very practical, and has nothing to do with economy or family stability. More, they just don't want to be treated like children anymore. I don't know why it is (perhaps the lack of a cultural right of passage?), but American parents seem rather shockingly unwilling to allow their kids to grow up. Nevermind letting your sixteen year old stay out past midnight, I'm talking about letting your twenty-five year old make her own financial descisions about her life. I can't tell you the number of stories I've heard from friends who've gone home for summers, only to have their parents re-instate a curfew for them while they were around. No one I know who is mentally healthy could endure being treated like a child until they're 32. If the parents could show some respect, maybe some of it would be shown back to them. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" /> (Lest anyone accuse me, mine pretty much let me grow up -- they were quite *over* prepared for their goodie-two-shoes kid to get the hard talks...<img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" />) Americans also seem to benefit from space to grow. Italy is pretty much settled -- every place that could be built on was built on millenia ago, and there's few true 'wild areas', am I wrong? No place that bears and boars could still be lurking? <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" /> Compared with the massive *space* in the US (how many miles of highway do you drive on in between cities when taking a road trip?), there's no inhibition to growth.  Still, the lure of family is quite strong. Most women I know, for instance, would like to live basically within driving distance of their own parents, brothers, and sisters. However, most of them still find the idea of moving back in repellant, because how could they ever, say, spend a tender, private night with their husbands, with Mom an Dad setting a 1 am curfew? <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" /></blockquote>

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