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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Rel" data-source="post: 1771311" data-attributes="member: 99">If you want to find reasons NOT to put yourself out there in contact with the opposite sex, I think you can probably do better than those.  You're a gamer, man.  Get creative.How about, "Well, she might be a Doppelganger or Succubus in disguise and just be waiting to bite off my junk and stuff."I mean seriously, "it's too late to go to class?"  Does your alarm clock not have a setting that's an extra half hour (at the most) earlier?  And the sexual harassment thing is easily circumvented by simply walking away the first time a girl says she's not interested.I'm not trying to piss you off or anything, but these are WEAK excuses.Let me tell you a quick little story about a guy I went to high school with.  We'll call him Steve (cause that's his name).  One day at lunch, I heard a girl I knew saying to a friend that Steve had asked her out.  The friend replied something along the lines of "Ew."  Steve was not regarded as a great catch by the majority of the females I went to high school with.A couple days later, I heard another girl say to a friend that Steve had asked her out.  The friend replied incredulously, "You're kidding!  He asked me out too just yesterday!  What a loser!"  I couldn't agree more at the time.  What a collossal jackass he was for taking this shotgun approach to getting a date.  Over the next few days I heard of at least three more girls that Steve had asked out within two weeks time.  Loooozuuuur!Except you know who the real loser was?  Me.  Because I was sitting around dateless for months at a time because I was too scared to ask a girl out unless I was ABSOLUTELY sure she would say yes.  I would tap-dance around the issue for weeks before asking and she'd say, "Sure.  I've been waiting forever for you to ask."  When I think back on all the dates I could have had if only I'd asked, well, it's enough to make a grown man cry.Steve had himself a girlfriend within a month or so.  She wasn't the prettiest girl in school (although she was a lot nicer looking that I'd have thought he could have landed) but she really liked him.  They were constantly all over each other and they dated through the rest of high school.  Hell, they may be married now for all I know.Steve may have been the smartest person in our whole graduating class.  Because he "got it".  He understood the quintessential truth of dating for guys and it is this:  Life is short and so is the period of humiliation that follows the word "No" escaping the lips of a woman.It's your choice.  But just stop pretending that anything besides you is holding you back.  And so what if you fail.  You think that everybody who is posting in this thread that's happily married with 2.4 kids got told "yes, I'd love to" the first time they asked somebody out?  I failed MANY times.  Sometimes spectacularly.  Sometimes LEGENDARILY (do me a favor and DON'T ask my friends about the "Tector Incident").  But I was still proud that I made the attempt and that the failure didn't destroy me.As the lovely Allison Krause sings, "The next best thing to playing and winning is playing and losing."PLAY!</blockquote>

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