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Message: <blockquote data-quote="BookTenTiger" data-source="post: 9361487" data-attributes="member: 6685541">Retreater, I've read and participated in similar threads by you, and I wanted to share my own experiences over the last few years.Before the Pandemic, I was playing in a long 5e game that started off great, but soon got very very railroady. All my good friends were very dedicated to this game, so if I wanted to play with them I had to play in this game. So I started thinking of the game as 75% social hangout time, 25% D&D. And if I got a little frustrated, I'd take a week or two off. It really helped!During the Pandemic, the 5e game continued online, but I also started my own online game with some other friends. I kept both games going through the pandemic, and neither had the same energy as an in person game but it gave a wonderful structure to that strange unstructured time.Towards the end of the Pandemic my wife and I had a kid, and I cut out all gaming since I just didn't have time or energy for it. We moved cross-country and I thought I would pretty easily find a new game in our new city.The problem was that I was busy with a new baby and a new job. I did a few online Ironsworn games with my friends from back home, which was great because it requires 0 prep time. The Ironsworn game started at once a month, but due to scheduling dropped to every other month... and then every three months... and finally I just stopped scheduling it.Over the last year I taught some coworkers to play D&D, and they really enjoyed it! We even made our own campaign world and played through a little dungeon. But scheduling that came became too much trouble, too!In truth, I haven't played a TTRPG in about four months, and I don't think I'll be playing one for a while.And you know what? I'm okay with that. I don't really have the energy to teach and manage other people right now. I love playing D&D, I love hanging out with friends and being creative. But I'm going to wait until I actually have the time, energy, and space to do so.In the meantime I'm focusing on other hobbies that require less energy to get into, like gardening, baking, and writing. I'm biking with some friends from work.Retreater, from all your recent posts it feels like you are playing TTRPGs out of a sense of obligation and nostalgia, but it's not giving you any pleasure. So stop. Take a break. You will find that the people in your life who want to keep playing will find ways to do so. And when you feel ready, you can play again.</blockquote>

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