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<blockquote data-quote="Umbran" data-source="post: 6626812" data-attributes="member: 177">Note that &quot;I am not having fun&quot; is not really criticism.&nbsp; It is a statement of personal state.&nbsp; You may *take* it as criticism.&nbsp; But that's an inference.Stepping back a bit, to a previous statement...Note how this is phrased and positioned.&nbsp; Note the connotations.&nbsp; Allow me to restate pretty much the same thing in another way that is not driving it to the inexorable uncompromising polarization:&quot;If the rest of the group is having fun, and you are not, why shouldn't the rest of the group consider some small adjustments to help you find your fun?&quot;&nbsp; I mean, really, if we are talking about friendly folks sitting down to pretend to be elves, why shouldn't we hope for a bit of compromise here and there?&nbsp; I think the world, and the typical situation, is far, far less black-and-white and all-or-nothing than many here seem to paint it.&nbsp; Compromise ought to be a pretty common thing, as it usually has good results, and doesn't end up with one immature person riding roughshod over a whole table of others.&nbsp; Making an allowance here or there isn't DOOOOMMMM!!!!1! or something.&nbsp; It's just a game.&nbsp; Play.&nbsp; Not Serious Business.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Umbran, post: 6626812, member: 177"] Note that "I am not having fun" is not really criticism. It is a statement of personal state. You may *take* it as criticism. But that's an inference. Stepping back a bit, to a previous statement... Note how this is phrased and positioned. Note the connotations. Allow me to restate pretty much the same thing in another way that is not driving it to the inexorable uncompromising polarization: "If the rest of the group is having fun, and you are not, why shouldn't the rest of the group consider some small adjustments to help you find your fun?" I mean, really, if we are talking about friendly folks sitting down to pretend to be elves, why shouldn't we hope for a bit of compromise here and there? I think the world, and the typical situation, is far, far less black-and-white and all-or-nothing than many here seem to paint it. Compromise ought to be a pretty common thing, as it usually has good results, and doesn't end up with one immature person riding roughshod over a whole table of others. Making an allowance here or there isn't [i]DOOOOMMMM!!!!1![/i] or something. It's just a game. Play. Not Serious Business. [/QUOTE]

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