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<blockquote data-quote="Ellie_the_Elf" data-source="post: 2501913" data-attributes="member: 17018">Hi again, and thank you again for all the advice- I have definitely learnt a few things from this whole experience if nothing else!Yes, p5 is *extremely* defensive if called on his behaviour/silly decisions/anything really. Believe me, I didn't want to be that nice in my email to him! Case in point here, my boyfriend, who is playing a paladin in the campaign, made an in-character post on our campaign messageboard about how his paladin wasn't happy with what happened, how he hoped it wouldn't happen again etc. p5 completely blew up at him and sent him a reply accusing my boyfriend of thinking he was stupid/a child/etc. So avoiding direct criticism is pretty much the only way to get through to this player. Besides which, I know I've made a couple of bad decisions along the way- not reviewing his sheet before we started (which mostly happened because he was late the first week too and everyone was anxious to get started) and allowing the psion in the first place being the worst of them.My other 3 players&nbsp; are being extremely supportive in offering advice etc. but would like to avoid a group confrontation, which I can understand. I've previously thrown two players out of the group - one because he had severe psychological problems, and quite honestly, he scared me, and another because he munchkined his character to extreme levels, entirely dominated the game, and then complained that the adventures were too easy. Neither of those situations left me feeling particularly good about myself, so this time I'm trying to keep from kicking anyone out except as a last resort. Turns out doing things this way is a lot harder...Ellie <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile&nbsp; &nbsp; :)"&nbsp; data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /></blockquote>

[QUOTE="Ellie_the_Elf, post: 2501913, member: 17018"] Hi again, and thank you again for all the advice- I have definitely learnt a few things from this whole experience if nothing else! Yes, p5 is *extremely* defensive if called on his behaviour/silly decisions/anything really. Believe me, I didn't want to be that nice in my email to him! Case in point here, my boyfriend, who is playing a paladin in the campaign, made an in-character post on our campaign messageboard about how his paladin wasn't happy with what happened, how he hoped it wouldn't happen again etc. p5 completely blew up at him and sent him a reply accusing my boyfriend of thinking he was stupid/a child/etc. So avoiding direct criticism is pretty much the only way to get through to this player. Besides which, I know I've made a couple of bad decisions along the way- not reviewing his sheet before we started (which mostly happened because he was late the first week too and everyone was anxious to get started) and allowing the psion in the first place being the worst of them. My other 3 players are being extremely supportive in offering advice etc. but would like to avoid a group confrontation, which I can understand. I've previously thrown two players out of the group - one because he had severe psychological problems, and quite honestly, he scared me, and another because he munchkined his character to extreme levels, entirely dominated the game, and then complained that the adventures were too easy. Neither of those situations left me feeling particularly good about myself, so this time I'm trying to keep from kicking anyone out except as a last resort. Turns out doing things this way is a lot harder... Ellie :) [/QUOTE]

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