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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Nonlethal Force" data-source="post: 3533293" data-attributes="member: 35788">While I think some of the advice in this post is warranted, I am deeply offended by one significant point of content.  Why do you assume that the poster is male?  I don't see anything in the post to so assume.  I agree that the OP's username and western culture implies that the OP is most likely a man ...... but to be honest lately I have seen just as many women as men not take their parenting duties seriously.  Bad parenting is a sign of the times equally for both genders.  As a teacher, I can also attest to having dads who care when the moms don't.  I can also attest to having moms care when dads don't.  But personally, as a man who takes relationships with adolescents (and children, too!) seriously, I was grieved by the assumptions made in this post.I'll get over it, though.To the OP: I would take the advice about kids seriously, however.  While the gender-speak was largely uncalled for, the advice about mentoring kids as stated in the post I quote is spot on.  People who choose to be in a relationship with someone who has kids should either love the kids like their own or find a significant other who doesn't have kids.  I know it is a cruel thing to say, but western culture has become very bad at raising kids.  [Perhaps other cultures as well, but I can only speak of western culture in which I live]  Kids need mentoring and role models - or else they will develop into adults who don't value their kids because they didn't feel valued themselves.  And that is a downward spiralling pattern the is self-destructive to community.Have fun with your gaming.  Please feel free to hear or ignore my words and the words above.  All the advice in this thread is free, and by nature that doesn't make it good or valuable.  It merely makes it advice.</blockquote>

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