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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Merkuri" data-source="post: 3970092" data-attributes="member: 41321">Man, the whole naming thing gets complicated nowadays.  I've been living with someone (Awayfarer) for two years now, and we have actually talked about what our names will be after we get married but haven't made a decision.  I actually have no idea what I want at the moment.  [SIZE=-2](Disclaimer: The following are my own feelings about my own life.  I'm not trying to comment on anyone else's name choice, just my own.)[/SIZE]  I don't have a problem with his name, but something seems wrong to me about giving up my own last name in an era where it's not unusual for the woman to be the breadwinner in a household.  It just strikes me as old-fashioned.  At the same time, I respect the tradition we've had for generations of the woman taking the man's last name, and it would be so much simpler to just go with that (as Kahuna Burger's situation shows).  So keeping my own name feels like I'm discarding centuries of tradition and insulting his family, but taking his name feels like I'm giving in to peer pressure and not being the modern woman I want to be.  Yet doing something in between, like hyphenating our names, just seems silly (again, this is my opinion about my own name, not a broad statement about how other people do things).I envy my mother because this decision was basically made for her.  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f61b.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":p" title="Stick out tongue    :p"  data-smilie="7"data-shortname=":p" /></blockquote>

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