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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Katerek" data-source="post: 485397" data-attributes="member: 5193">CandidusI read your original post and then all of the advice, thinking that they were good advice, and in the traditional sense they are.You situation, however, is a little different.  Actually far more complex.  If you approach the guy he is going to want to know what he has done wrong, and quite frankly it can be hard to tell folks that you dont like them.  I have been through this a number of times.  I am a total gaming snob, and will only play with folks that I can stand.  I am a total dic,k most times as well, I know this, so I typically only hang with people who can tolerate my own brand of BS.  Needless to say our group is fairly eclectic.  There has been a few times though where we wanted to get rid of a player that we didn't like on general principle.  I will offer some advise in the form of telling you what I have done.Like I said before, I am not generally known to be an incredibally nice guy to people I dont know.  Once I had a player that I didnt particularly like and waited for him to slip up.  Then I just blew it out of proportion and booted him.  I basically made an Ass of myself.  I was the bag guy and that was that.  No one was suprised.  Including the player.  He knew that I could be that way.Another time I just asked a guy to quit coming around.  That worked really well too.  He had been hitting on my girlfriend and she brought it to my attention that he was doing this so I just simply came to him and said: "You know how you have been coming over for a few months and gaming, and how we have been hanging out and stuff?" And he said "Yeah." Then I replied "Dont do that anymore."  I never saw him again.I had one guy get all out of whack and try to beat me up once.  I laughed at him and he went away.Most recently I had a guy that was kind of a turd and he kept questioning everything that I did!  I am the GM by the way.  It finally got to the point to where he was regularly sending letters of concern to the RPGA questioning my rulings!  I eventually found out, and since I loathe the RPGA, that was all the ammo I needed.  I was civil though and drafted a very polite letter and then read it to him over the phone.  Then I posted it to eth eemail server that we all use for my game so that everyone knew what was up.  I basically fired the guy.My ultimate advice to you is to cater your rejection to his personality type.  If you think that he is going to become physical or confrontational, do it via letter or email.  If you could give a rat's aptooty about his emotions and you have little problems with guilt, then just tell him to bug off.  Eventually he will rationalize things where you are the bad guy anyway, and if you can live with that, so be it.If he is overly emotional and overly attached to the game, go easy.  You definately dont want a Blackleaf Incident on your hands.  If the guys has hardcore emotional problems then you need to have an old time intervention.Good luck to you, I do not envy your position.One finaly thing:  And this is coming from a self confessed a-hole, make sure that there isn't anything that you could do to make things better first.  Three of my best friends in this life started out as my most hated enemies.</blockquote>

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