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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Merkuri" data-source="post: 5130854" data-attributes="member: 41321">I see it this way:If your game has a regular schedule (like my group plays every Monday from 8-11 Eastern) then you should make some effort to be available during that time.  If you have the option of doing something any day of the week and you pick game day then that's not cool.  Like others have said, playing D&D is like playing a sport where you need a certain number of people on a team, and if somebody doesn't show then the game is affected.  You're being inconsiderate if you just decide to do something else that day.However, if something happens or needs to happen on game day and you can't change it, or changing it would inconvenience other people, then that's understandable.  It is a game, after all.Excuses that I find okay are having to travel for work, significant other is sick, or an appointment where the best day happens to be game day.Excuses that I don't find okay are playing video games, or scheduling an appointment that could have easily been done on a different day.I do find "I'm just not feeling it today" to be an acceptable excuse.  If you're so stressed or out of it that you're not going to enjoy the session then you might bring down everybody else and it would probably be best if you weren't there.  If this appens a lot, though, then perhaps said player should think about why they like to play D&D in the first place.A date, though... I think I'd have to deal with that one on a case-by-case basis.  I'd like to know why it has to happen on game night.  If there's a good reason, then okay.  If that's just the first day that was suggested and the gamer said, "sure!" without suggesting a different day then I feel like not enough effort was made to make it to the game.  All I ask is you take a moment to say, "That night's not great for me, how about <different day>?" and if the datetee says only the first day will work then at least you made the effort and I'm okay with you missing the game.I'm in the same game as Hussar, and a lot of people seem to think online games do not demand the same sort of commitment as live games.  Just because you've never met me in person doesn't mean you have the right to agree to play a game on Mondays and then only show up half of the time without warning.  It's not an MMORPG.  There are real people on the other side of that computer screen that may have their game messed up if you decide not to show.</blockquote>

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