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Message: <blockquote data-quote="atom crash" data-source="post: 2705782" data-attributes="member: 22162">Good deal. Cool heads will prevail. My advice is to find another place to play this time, then sit down and work out a plan for future scheduling. Work with him, don't demand anything at first since it just puts him on the defensive and will make it more difficult to be reasonable.But you may consider that although your roommate is cool with your gf being there and you are cool with his gf being there, there may also be some underlying tension because in effect there are 4 people in an apartment that is the perfect size for two people.My brother was the best roommate I ever had, until we both started having our girlfriends stay over a lot. I didn't realize until much later that our problem was that although we got along wonderfully, the apartment was much too small for 4 people. We'd have arguments about the cable bill, cleaning the dishes, whatever, anything BUT the two girls staying over all the time, but that's what the arguments really were about. And there were times we wanted to strangle each other. I'm not saying that anyone in the apartment is being inconsiderate; in your mind you're 100 % in the right because you've already cleared plans with him and in his mind he is 100% in the right because it's his apartment too. I can relate to you both; gaming or just hanging out with friends is important but sometimes I just want to be able to come home to my solace and not be bothered by anyone.My point is that it might be worth considering that you and your roommate have arrived at the point, after living together for 3 years, that you've been as tolerant as you can be and now little things are starting to aggravate you to no end. But back to your plight, doing anything that he will perceive as picking a fight over this issue is going to make you miserable. And being miserable at home sucks, because there's no way to escape a bad scene in the place where you sleep.</blockquote>

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