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<blockquote data-quote="catsclaw227" data-source="post: 4453175" data-attributes="member: 14197">In my experience, the main reason why people cheat is because they think they can get away with it.The reasons why and the rationalizations why are the purview of someone more qualified, but there's nothing ham-fisted about just taking her aside and saying &quot;hey gal-pal, the fudging of the die rolls is making me uncomfortable. Let's just make a table rule to roll out in front of everyone.&quot;&nbsp; Pat her on the back and smile, then offer a beverage or ask her about whether she liked Iron Man.This doesn't have to be a frakin' intervention.In my case, If I want to set an example for my kids that cheating isn't something that is acceptable, I need to live by it. It's perfectly reasonable to talk about it with her in a way that shows you aren't a jerk and yet you aren't dancing around china dolls and egg shells.&nbsp; Be direct, but be sure to be kind and compassionate with your honesty.If she nods, agrees and then cheats again, then she has proven that either she has a clinical-grade problem or she doesn't respect you and your group.At that point, the decision would be easy.&nbsp; It might be a sad decision, but there isn't much to do at that point.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="catsclaw227, post: 4453175, member: 14197"] In my experience, the main reason why people cheat is because they think they can get away with it. The reasons why and the rationalizations why are the purview of someone more qualified, but there's nothing ham-fisted about just taking her aside and saying "hey gal-pal, the fudging of the die rolls is making me uncomfortable. Let's just make a table rule to roll out in front of everyone." Pat her on the back and smile, then offer a beverage or ask her about whether she liked Iron Man. This doesn't have to be a frakin' intervention. In my case, If I want to set an example for my kids that cheating isn't something that is acceptable, I need to live by it. It's perfectly reasonable to talk about it with her in a way that shows you aren't a jerk and yet you aren't dancing around china dolls and egg shells. Be direct, but be sure to be kind and compassionate with your honesty. If she nods, agrees and then cheats again, then she has proven that either she has a clinical-grade problem or she doesn't respect you and your group. At that point, the decision would be easy. It might be a sad decision, but there isn't much to do at that point. [/QUOTE]

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