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<blockquote data-quote="Merkuri" data-source="post: 4461337" data-attributes="member: 41321">I don't want to argue much further about this because it's going a bit off topic, and I suspect our arguments will be mostly about semantics, but I'll say this last bit...Yes, she should feel bad because she's cheating.&nbsp; But if you increase her bad feelings by doing something she may see as punishment (not saying that's your intent, just that it might be how she sees it) it's not doing anyone any good.&nbsp; She already knows cheating is bad.&nbsp; She knows she shouldn't do it, but it's probably too tempting for her because it's easy.&nbsp; If the choice is between two methods that make it harder for her to cheat but one really makes her feel a lot worse about herself and the other only makes her feel a little worse about herself in my opinion the one that makes her feel less bad is the preferrable one if your goal is to correct the behavior with the minumum of drama.&nbsp; Less bad feelings = less drama.&nbsp; That's all I was trying to say.&nbsp; Whether she feels bad on her own isn't really relevant to my point, and I agree that she probably is already feeling guilty about cheating, and that's a good thing.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Merkuri, post: 4461337, member: 41321"] I don't want to argue much further about this because it's going a bit off topic, and I suspect our arguments will be mostly about semantics, but I'll say this last bit... Yes, she should feel bad because she's cheating. But if you increase her bad feelings by doing something she may see as punishment (not saying that's your intent, just that it might be how she sees it) it's not doing anyone any good. She already knows cheating is bad. She knows she shouldn't do it, but it's probably too tempting for her because it's easy. If the choice is between two methods that make it harder for her to cheat but one really makes her feel a lot worse about herself and the other only makes her feel a little worse about herself in my opinion the one that makes her feel less bad is the preferrable one if your goal is to correct the behavior with the minumum of drama. Less bad feelings = less drama. That's all I was trying to say. Whether she feels bad on her own isn't really relevant to my point, and I agree that she probably is already feeling guilty about cheating, and that's a good thing. [/QUOTE]

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