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Message: <blockquote data-quote="James Heard" data-source="post: 2821489" data-attributes="member: 7280">To be clear, I'd probably be MORE offended by minor cheating in a group where I didn't know anyone - because there's less trust involved in the first place and I'm more likely to engage in competitive behaviors with people I wouldn't have a huge problem tossing into a well if it got me 50 XP. With friends though, or even acquaintances that exist more or less constantly because they're gaming buddies, you've got to involve the very real dilemma of "is this worth risking the relationship over" and again, note that it's a game. When the relationship in question isn't just an individual one, but considered as an issue of a group as a whole, I think it becomes even more important to consider that issue. Most of my regular groups of people who've shown up for my games over the past decade or so can earn a little leeway in their behaviors, especially given the rather gross allowances outside the norm that are occasionally made for individual quirks when someone is a complete social nutjob except when playing a game or are otherwise "broken" friends. It doesn't harm my trust in someone to note that a person is acting as I assume most people to act, but I acknowledge that it would probably harm my development of trust in someone who I've just met. Or to put it another way, if you're already my friend then it's ok to tell me you spent a while in prison but I'm going to watch you more in the first place if that's the first thing I know about you.</blockquote>

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