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Message: <blockquote data-quote="fusangite" data-source="post: 2826433" data-attributes="member: 7240">I think you have hit the nail right on the head here. I just can't have long-term gaming acquaintances, I have discovered. Even after moving to a new city and having to fill a gaming group with strangers, it took about 7 months for people to become friends or for those who didn't to drift away. When I was younger, I had a friend who cheated. We would kid him about it, which caused him to feel so guilty that although he didn't stop cheating, he began changing rolls into 1s as or more often than he turned them into 20s. He still scored more criticals than he statistically should have but he was also losing his action and dropping his weapon all the time. He was a special case in that he was such a great guy, such an effective role player and such a great friend that we would tolerate his propensity for this kind of weirdness. I ended up betraying him horribly in real life and we stopped gaming together so I never had the pleasure to see what a more mature, non-cheating version of him would have been like.The point of my rambling story is this: if a friendship doesn't include the ability to confront someone about them behaving in a way that makes you feel bad, it's not much of a friendship. If your friendships are premised on never telling your friend when he's getting on your nerves, your relationship lacks the intimacy necessary to qualify as a friendship. We chose to confront our friend about his cheating by teasing him in a humorous way -- that's just one example of the ways you can confront a friend and still get your point across without seeming like a dictatorial killjoy.In the end, I'm pleased to say that my friendship with this individual is gradually healing despite me having done something far worse to him than cheating at his game. If think you've got a friendship so brittle and sensitive that a single confrontation over a socially minor issue will end it, you don't really have a friendship.</blockquote>

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