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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Fanaelialae" data-source="post: 8834695" data-attributes="member: 53980">We definitely have different group dynamics. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />I would say there's a difference between a competitive sports game between competing teams, and a friendly sports match between friends. In a friendly match, you might still be competitive, but you shouldn't be willing to do anything just to win. To me, a healthy game (outside of maybe something like a Convention game) should be much more the latter than the former. The DM may be the referee and run the opposition, but that doesn't mean that the players are the enemy. IMO, the DM should fall somewhere between neutral arbiter and someone who wants the PCs to succeed (but still wants to challenge them), depending on play style. An antagonistic DM who wants to destroy the PCs is basically Godzilla vs Bambi. As a player, I see my role as advocating for my character, but never going so far as to undermine the enjoyment of the campaign itself.I agree that it's the DMs job to pushback when need be, but just as often I find it's the DMs job to listen to what their players are saying. To talk to them as adults and seek a resolution. If the player is asking for some unreasonably powerful homebrew class that they found on the internet, talking to them might reveal that they're asking because they're constantly dying and it's really starting to ruin their sense of enjoyment. And in that circumstance, even though I probably wouldn't allow that class, I would work with them to find a solution. I might dial back the encounter difficulty a bit. Or, if the player usually plays frontline, maybe mix up encounters with more artillery units to move some pressure to the back line. Or even homebrew a hard to kill class with that player (maybe something like a Troll or Revenant monster class, so that it's very hard to permanently kill).</blockquote>

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