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Message: <blockquote data-quote="krunchyfrogg" data-source="post: 5309151" data-attributes="member: 10107">I'd really love any advice from anybody who has considered, or who has been through a similar situation as mine.  I'm not going to base my decision on a discussion on a message board, but I will probably feel better after venting, and any outside voice will be a welcome one.Here's the situation:I'm 34, the Wife is 37 (and will be 38 in a few weeks).  Our baby will turn 1 in less than two weeks, and our 6 year anniversary is tomorrow (the 4th).  We've been dating since we met, in June of 1999.Since the baby has been born, if the two of us aren't shouting at each other, we're giving each other the silent treatment.  The last time we were "intimate" with each other was sometime before baseball season started (which is at the beginning of April).  I know you're only getting one side of this story, but I honestly can't remember intentionally ever starting a fight between us.  I am always trying to make things better, but she'll pick one minute thing that I did, and the whole effort will be a lost one.The baby seems very happy, and I keep telling myself to endure this marriage where I feel verbally abused, but I don't think I can take it anymore.My wife is refusing counseling together, so I go myself once every two weeks.Neither of us has a real social circle.  She quit her job to be a stay at home Mom and now she only sees some people she plays tennis with for an hour or two 2-3 times a week.  I haven't kept in touch with old friends and I pretty much have coworkers to talk to (3 people), and they're all at least 15 years older than me (so there's a disconnect there).  The most support I'm getting is from my boss, who has a similar, easygoing personality as mine, and went through a similar situation with his ex-wife.  Other than coworkers, I've joined a fall softball league to meet new people, which starts in a few weeks.We've had fights over the past six months where I've just walked out after she's told me she doesn't want me around.  That's where I am right now, I went into work at 11:30 at night, and plan on sleeping here tonight (it's in a hospital, so we have stretchers and blankets).I know this is an incomplete story, but it can't be a good thing to be kicked out of your own house the night before your wedding anniversary.As much as I miss my Wife and baby (and I really do miss them, especially my daughter), if it comes to divorce, which I really think it might, what advice can y'all give me?</blockquote>

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