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Message: <blockquote data-quote="krunchyfrogg" data-source="post: 5309511" data-attributes="member: 10107">She's definitely angry, and says it's about me, but when I ask her directly, it's either something minute that doesn't warrant that level of animosity, or it's something irrational.  Maybe she resents not being at work, but when she was working, she'd always be complaining about the job.  We obviously have less money coming in, but neither of us is a big spender, and we both live within our means.  I usually pick up saturdays at my old job for the extra cash.  Saying this brings up a whole other issue between us: my Wife insists on paying the bills, and taking care of anything financial.  But she just doesn't do it.  My cards get rejected, and I have to call the bank to transfer funds so I can buy food.  Not only is it a frustrating experience, it's extremely embarassing.She love tennis, and I've never held her back from going, before or after the baby.She's fine with it, it was actually her suggestion and I initially went just to make her happy.  After going for 6 months now, I've come to realize some issues of my own and are working on them.  I've made a lot of improvement, but if you were to ask my wife, it's not where the improvement really needs to be made (which, IMHO, again points to the fact that she needs help too).She would initially shut down in a highly stressful situation, and then really go at it.  She's a procrastinator to the nth degree.  Pulls all-nighters whenever needed (and she's the one who gets herself into these all-nighter situations by procrastinating).She would calmly talk to the waiter at times, other times retreat and just complain about it.A few weeks ago, we went to a restaurant and they had taken her favorite appetizer off the menu -- something she was really looking forward to.  All we had ordered up to that point was two iced teas.She complained that there was nothing on the menu she liked.  Instead of just getting up and leaving (leaving a few bucks on the table for the iced teas), which was my suggestion, she would rather just sit there and be unhappy the whole meal.  To top it off, her attitude rubbed off on the baby, so I was carrying a crying baby in a restaurant trying to calm her down.Thanks.  A lot of guys tell me to do this.  It's really not what I want.It's 10:45 am now, and I'm in the public library surfing the 'net, just trying to pass time.  Pretty depressing. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f641.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":(" title="Frown    :("  data-smilie="3"data-shortname=":(" /></blockquote>

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