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<blockquote data-quote="gizmo33" data-source="post: 2256493" data-attributes="member: 30001">What I recommend is that you deal with this in what some people would consider an &quot;adult&quot; fashion - which may or may not be appropriate to your age group, but it's done as follows:&nbsp;1.&nbsp; figure out what YOUR problem is.&nbsp; Forget about the other guy being at fault for a second.&nbsp; Figure out what you would want to be different.&nbsp;2.&nbsp; Tell the DM and other players about it.&nbsp; Instead of &quot;Here's why you're a jerk...&quot;.&nbsp; Say things like &quot;Here's what I'm not happy about...&quot;.&nbsp; Only fools think they're 100% right about who is and isn't a jerk.&nbsp; What you do know is what you don't like.&nbsp; Stick with what you know.&nbsp; It really accomplishes the same thing in the end.&nbsp;3.&nbsp; Listen to what everyone else has to say about this problem.&nbsp; &nbsp;4.&nbsp; Figure out if there's room for comprimise, but don't force it.&nbsp;5.&nbsp; Remember that other people can't MAKE you angry - your brain is in charge of interpreting people's actions, and the fact that you're not having fun is not worth BLAMING on another person.&nbsp; But it is worth recognizing, and it's worth fixing.&nbsp; &nbsp;You might not get satisfactory results by talking to the players/DM and you don't have many options in that case - IMO it's not worth trying to manipulate, humiliate, or threaten a way to solve these things - although foolish people try to do this all of the time.&nbsp; They usually wind up drunk out in someone's yard screaming about something stupid.&nbsp; Don't go down this road.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="gizmo33, post: 2256493, member: 30001"] What I recommend is that you deal with this in what some people would consider an "adult" fashion - which may or may not be appropriate to your age group, but it's done as follows: 1. figure out what YOUR problem is. Forget about the other guy being at fault for a second. Figure out what you would want to be different. 2. Tell the DM and other players about it. Instead of "Here's why you're a jerk...". Say things like "Here's what I'm not happy about...". Only fools think they're 100% right about who is and isn't a jerk. What you do know is what you don't like. Stick with what you know. It really accomplishes the same thing in the end. 3. Listen to what everyone else has to say about this problem. 4. Figure out if there's room for comprimise, but don't force it. 5. Remember that other people can't MAKE you angry - your brain is in charge of interpreting people's actions, and the fact that you're not having fun is not worth BLAMING on another person. But it is worth recognizing, and it's worth fixing. You might not get satisfactory results by talking to the players/DM and you don't have many options in that case - IMO it's not worth trying to manipulate, humiliate, or threaten a way to solve these things - although foolish people try to do this all of the time. They usually wind up drunk out in someone's yard screaming about something stupid. Don't go down this road. [/QUOTE]

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