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<blockquote data-quote="Remathilis" data-source="post: 9464561" data-attributes="member: 7635">My girlfriend doesn't like sushi. I do. We can never go to a sushi place as a date. Is she imposing her will on me? What if I take her to the sushi place anyway? Am I imposing my will on her? Who decides whose will is more important? You are framing an interpersonal relationship as a power struggle one where you feel one party (the DM) has innate right to there will be done and the other as subservient (the player). Akin to saying since I'm the one paying for the date, I get whatever food I want regardless of my partner's preference. That all makes sense in an abstract argument on a message board, but as I point out time and again fails in real life scenarios where power dynamics aren't cut and dry. I will reiterate that DMs who have a my-way-or-highway attitude better have a large pool of potential players lined up if they feel every disagreement ends with them winning and the player leaving. Eventually, they alienate all their players. Now excuse me, I'm going to go back to browsing Tinder for a girl who likes sushi.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Remathilis, post: 9464561, member: 7635"] My girlfriend doesn't like sushi. I do. We can never go to a sushi place as a date. Is she imposing her will on me? What if I take her to the sushi place anyway? Am I imposing my will on her? Who decides whose will is more important? You are framing an interpersonal relationship as a power struggle one where you feel one party (the DM) has innate right to there will be done and the other as subservient (the player). Akin to saying since I'm the one paying for the date, I get whatever food I want regardless of my partner's preference. That all makes sense in an abstract argument on a message board, but as I point out time and again fails in real life scenarios where power dynamics aren't cut and dry. I will reiterate that DMs who have a my-way-or-highway attitude better have a large pool of potential players lined up if they feel every disagreement ends with them winning and the player leaving. Eventually, they alienate all their players. Now excuse me, I'm going to go back to browsing Tinder for a girl who likes sushi. [/QUOTE]

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