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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Dykstrav" data-source="post: 4973167" data-attributes="member: 40522">Thanks for all the input. Now that I've had some time to think about it... I kinda knew that I'm going to kick this person out, I just needed to hear some validation that I'm doing the right thing to work up the gumption to do it.Seems like I should clarify a bit though... She's missed an odd session here or there, but her experience point total was hovering around 5,300 xp when she realized that she never leveled her character up. Yes, she's almost fifth level and didn't realize it. Her explanation for this was that she assumed the character generator on DDI allowed the DM to update xp totals for their players through the application and she didn't realize that she'd gained two levels already. She also knows that I'm not using DDI.The proverbial straw that broke the camel's back came this morning when she posted a message to our group's board about it. She's basically planning to skip next week's session, is being kinda snotty because she wants the xp anyway, and feels that I should give her xp as a (direct quote) "good faith gesture." She wants me to bump her xp total to equal that of the group's highest-xp character. She's not happy with the situation because I make tracking xp incumbent on the players--I give out individual xp rewards for roleplaying, individual story goals, participation in skill challenges and the like. The players have different xp totals from one another, and a one-level gap is pretty common. We even have two-level gaps from time to time. Our current group has seven characters, most of which are fourth level. Despite the "no game, no xp" policy being pretty much iron-clad, my impression is that she's either too lazy to track her own xp or she's trying to act like she was uninformed about what the character builder and DDI do.I kinda am. A big part of my occupation is to be confrontational and point out what others are doing incorrectly. I don't enjoy being confrontational at work and then having to be confrontational at the game table. It's a failing and I'm going to address it.There's a pity issue too. She's been through a terrible divorce and is constantly dealing with family issues. We're basically her only "friends," but as I get to know her better, my impression is more and more that we're simply the group of people that put up with her for now. Still, having a bad romance or family situation explains why you might be upset or sensitive, it doesn't give you carte blanche to be a jerk. She's pretty much exhausted any empathy I had for her though.The problem player is actually a woman. While attempting to respect the "Eric's grandma" rule, suffice to say it's a big "no." You wouldn't be interested, trust me. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f61b.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":p" title="Stick out tongue    :p"  data-smilie="7"data-shortname=":p" /> The way this incident played out... We had a friend in town who was basically only able to play one session. When she left, the player commented that she wished the guest player was bi. I immediately told her that no one wants to hear about that particular area of her life, wherein she promptly stuck her foot in her mouth by telling me that she wished my girlfriend was bi because she's been interested in threesomes before. Yes, I immediately stopped what we were doing to tell her that it wasn't cool. In all fairness, I can't tell if she's joking or not.It seems like it. For starters, we're frequently reminded that there aren't enough women in our group. In respect to ENWorld's "no politics" rule, I won't go further than that. Suffice to say that we've mutually agreed to not talk about politics and she does it anyway.</blockquote>

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