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<blockquote data-quote="Mercule" data-source="post: 6638961" data-attributes="member: 5100">Painful experience has taught me that I'm rarely 100% in the right, when there are hurt feelings. Check your own attitude when dealing with this person. I'm not saying you did something wrong. I'm just cautioning against perception bias. Also, neither side is ever justified in temper tantrums.That said, some players and DMs just don't mix. I've played in games that had &quot;the best GM, ever&quot;, according to several folks, and found it to be unpleasant. I've been the acclaimed GM and had folks nod off at my table. I've had shouting matches on both sides. Sometimes it can be fixed. Sometimes, it's just differing base expectations or desires. Life's too short to take preferences in gaming personally.If you want to salvage a friendship and/or ability to socialize together (including sitting together at another GM's table), you might want to be the &quot;bigger man&quot; and talk with the guy. It could be as simple as, &quot;Hey, man, I've never meant to crap on you. We've had enough issues, though, that it's obvious they won't fix themselves. We can try to figure out where the disconnect is and see if it's just a communication thing or mismatched expectations. We could also just agree that I won't be DMing for you, for a while, so we can cool off. Either way, I want to make sure there aren't any hard feelings and that game issues stay game issues, not personal issues.&quot;If that doesn't work, just stop playing with him. Again, life's too short to turn a game into political drama.Or, if you've decided the guy's a complete jerk, you could poison other tables against him to make sure he's not welcome where you want to play. Be aware, though, that'll probably backfire and you'll be the one disinvited.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Mercule, post: 6638961, member: 5100"] Painful experience has taught me that I'm rarely 100% in the right, when there are hurt feelings. Check your own attitude when dealing with this person. I'm [U]not[/U] saying you did something wrong. I'm just cautioning against perception bias. Also, neither side is ever justified in temper tantrums. That said, some players and DMs just don't mix. I've played in games that had "the best GM, ever", according to several folks, and found it to be unpleasant. I've been the acclaimed GM and had folks nod off at my table. I've had shouting matches on both sides. Sometimes it can be fixed. Sometimes, it's just differing base expectations or desires. Life's too short to take preferences in gaming personally. If you want to salvage a friendship and/or ability to socialize together (including sitting together at another GM's table), you might want to be the "bigger man" and talk with the guy. It could be as simple as, "Hey, man, I've never meant to crap on you. We've had enough issues, though, that it's obvious they won't fix themselves. We can try to figure out where the disconnect is and see if it's just a communication thing or mismatched expectations. We could also just agree that I won't be DMing for you, for a while, so we can cool off. Either way, I want to make sure there aren't any hard feelings and that game issues stay game issues, not personal issues." If that doesn't work, just stop playing with him. Again, life's too short to turn a game into political drama. Or, if you've decided the guy's a complete jerk, you could poison other tables against him to make sure he's not welcome where you want to play. Be aware, though, that'll probably backfire and you'll be the one disinvited. [/QUOTE]

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