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<blockquote data-quote="Sunseeker" data-source="post: 6639972">I work in debt collection and I'll tell you a secret my boss told me.Don't be afraid to say &quot;NO&quot;.&nbsp; If they're interested in resolving the debt(lets frame this in D&amp;D terms: the situation) they'll come up with a new idea.&nbsp; If they're not really interested in resolving the situation, they won't and they'll throw a fit about how you're not working with them.There is always room to come to a compromise that works for both DM and player, but sometimes the DM just has to say &quot;NO&quot;.&nbsp; A good player will go &quot;Oh, well how about *idea*...&quot;&nbsp; A bad player will tell you off, verbally or non-verbally (usually by falling silent, becoming huffy and combative and generally being difficult to play with).So you've had problems with this player before and talked to a person you assumed was a friend at the time about them, well she showed how much of a friend she was when she started dating him now didn't she?&nbsp; Your problem sounds like in large part of simply having the wrong group of friends.&nbsp; I'd take this time to evaluate how important your &quot;friendships&quot; are with these people because they certainly sound like they don't regard you as a friend.I'd also suggest seeing what you can strike up with this new guy, perhaps this unknown person is life's way of giving you a gateway to better options.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Sunseeker, post: 6639972"] I work in debt collection and I'll tell you a secret my boss told me. Don't be afraid to say "NO". If they're interested in resolving the debt(lets frame this in D&D terms: the situation) they'll come up with a new idea. If they're not really interested in resolving the situation, they won't and they'll throw a fit about how you're not working with them. There is always room to come to a compromise that works for both DM and player, but sometimes the DM just has to say "NO". A good player will go "Oh, well how about *idea*..." A bad player will tell you off, verbally or non-verbally (usually by falling silent, becoming huffy and combative and generally being difficult to play with). So you've had problems with this player before and talked to a person you assumed was a friend at the time about them, well she showed how much of a friend she was when she started dating him now didn't she? Your problem sounds like in large part of simply having the wrong group of friends. I'd take this time to evaluate how important your "friendships" are with these people because they certainly sound like they don't regard you as a friend. I'd also suggest seeing what you can strike up with this new guy, perhaps this unknown person is life's way of giving you a gateway to better options. [/QUOTE]

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