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<blockquote data-quote="Celtavian" data-source="post: 6642862" data-attributes="member: 5834">Fanatically defending?I'm merely saying I understand this situation. You have two people that don't like each other. One has called the other stupid and he knows. Majoru presents himself as a guy that has a &quot;stupid meter&quot; and I translate that as Majoru as being somewhat judgmental. People that have &quot;stupid meters&quot; and judge people by them seem to have the attitude that their worldview and way of acting is superior to others. Very similar to those people you see that generally talk to people as if&nbsp; &quot;They're in the know&quot; concerning what is right and wrong with the world. I find that worldview creates many conflicts be it at game tables or the workplace. I know tone of voice, expression, and other such things that Majoru may not even notice, but are expressed due to his feelings towards the player, may affect how this guy feels. I've seen this happen quite often. You may be able to suppress your words, but it is often far more difficult to suppress other forms of non-verbal communication that may influence reactions. &quot;What ifs&quot; might allow Majoru to analyze his own behavior and think about how he would feel if he were the guy. How would Majoru feel if he was being DMed by a guy that called him stupid? Maybe&nbsp; Majoru should tell Mr. Tantrum he doesn't appreciate Mr. Tantrum always complaining at the table while he's DMing? Maybe have Mr. Tantrum ask himself if he would like someone complaining at the table while he DMs? What ifs are the best way to explore what is occurring and provide helpful advice. It encourages reflection and stepping into the other guy's shoes.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Celtavian, post: 6642862, member: 5834"] Fanatically defending? I'm merely saying I understand this situation. You have two people that don't like each other. One has called the other stupid and he knows. Majoru presents himself as a guy that has a "stupid meter" and I translate that as Majoru as being somewhat judgmental. People that have "stupid meters" and judge people by them seem to have the attitude that their worldview and way of acting is superior to others. Very similar to those people you see that generally talk to people as if "They're in the know" concerning what is right and wrong with the world. I find that worldview creates many conflicts be it at game tables or the workplace. I know tone of voice, expression, and other such things that Majoru may not even notice, but are expressed due to his feelings towards the player, may affect how this guy feels. I've seen this happen quite often. You may be able to suppress your words, but it is often far more difficult to suppress other forms of non-verbal communication that may influence reactions. "What ifs" might allow Majoru to analyze his own behavior and think about how he would feel if he were the guy. How would Majoru feel if he was being DMed by a guy that called him stupid? Maybe Majoru should tell Mr. Tantrum he doesn't appreciate Mr. Tantrum always complaining at the table while he's DMing? Maybe have Mr. Tantrum ask himself if he would like someone complaining at the table while he DMs? What ifs are the best way to explore what is occurring and provide helpful advice. It encourages reflection and stepping into the other guy's shoes. [/QUOTE]

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