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<blockquote data-quote="MG.0" data-source="post: 6694555" data-attributes="member: 6799436"><p>@<em><strong><u><a href="http://www.enworld.org/forum/member.php?u=5143" target="_blank">Majoru Oakheart</a></u></strong></em></p><p></p><p>I think you need to take a long look in the mirror and think about what you really want.</p><p></p><p>You started off by calling this guy stupid. Perhaps he is, but that is not his fault. Not everyone can be brilliant and creative but that doesn't mean he doesn't enjoy playing D&D. You revealed your feellings to everyone including this girl who is now dating him, so you can bet he knows<strong> exactly</strong> what you think of him. Do you think that might be a source of friction? Perhaps he has a light trigger around you because he knows you think he's an idiot.</p><p></p><p>It seems he enjoys playing even if he doesn't contribute much characterization and makes horrible plans. Why does the party follow his plans if they are so bad? Nevermind, it isn't important. It may look like he's being a jerk by walking out, but I know some people with emotional issues prone to outbursts like that and believe me walking away is much better than staying and escalating things. He may be handling it the best way he knows how. Some poeple with Asperger's have meltdowns like that, and rational discussion is impossible in that moment. After they cool down, it's like a lightswitch is flipped and everything is fine, sometimes to the point of almost forgetting the event even happened. Bringing the event up again can be a sure fire way to re-trigger the meltdown.</p><p></p><p>If you are serious about finding a solution and not just looking for online reinforcement of your opinions about this guy you will do one of two things:</p><p></p><p>1) Walk away. Stay away.</p><p></p><p>2) Sit down with him alone and tell him what you want to happen. It may involve an apology from him regarding his outbursts. It should definitely include an apology from you regarding his intelligence.</p><p></p><p>Honestly number one is probably better as I'm not sure it'd be easy for either of you to get past the fact you think he's stupid.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MG.0, post: 6694555, member: 6799436"] @[I][B][U][URL="http://www.enworld.org/forum/member.php?u=5143"]Majoru Oakheart[/URL][/U][/B][/I] I think you need to take a long look in the mirror and think about what you really want. You started off by calling this guy stupid. Perhaps he is, but that is not his fault. Not everyone can be brilliant and creative but that doesn't mean he doesn't enjoy playing D&D. You revealed your feellings to everyone including this girl who is now dating him, so you can bet he knows[B] exactly[/B] what you think of him. Do you think that might be a source of friction? Perhaps he has a light trigger around you because he knows you think he's an idiot. It seems he enjoys playing even if he doesn't contribute much characterization and makes horrible plans. Why does the party follow his plans if they are so bad? Nevermind, it isn't important. It may look like he's being a jerk by walking out, but I know some people with emotional issues prone to outbursts like that and believe me walking away is much better than staying and escalating things. He may be handling it the best way he knows how. Some poeple with Asperger's have meltdowns like that, and rational discussion is impossible in that moment. After they cool down, it's like a lightswitch is flipped and everything is fine, sometimes to the point of almost forgetting the event even happened. Bringing the event up again can be a sure fire way to re-trigger the meltdown. If you are serious about finding a solution and not just looking for online reinforcement of your opinions about this guy you will do one of two things: 1) Walk away. Stay away. 2) Sit down with him alone and tell him what you want to happen. It may involve an apology from him regarding his outbursts. It should definitely include an apology from you regarding his intelligence. Honestly number one is probably better as I'm not sure it'd be easy for either of you to get past the fact you think he's stupid. [/QUOTE]
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