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Message: <blockquote data-quote="imabaer" data-source="post: 6706683" data-attributes="member: 6801588">That's a lot more blunt than I would have put it, but it's not far off.Ho boy, this going to be a helluva first post. Heh.OP: First problem is you are trying to fix this guy. You are trying to point out what is wrong with him to his girlfriend. You are also putting words into her mouth ("I know you're only siding with him because you're dating him, but..." On a side note, this is really, really presumptuous of you to say. And worse, if you were actually right, it's exactly the wrong time to point that out.) The focus of your ire offends you on a personal level, and it's something you can't let go.Actually, scratch that. Your first and foremost problem is that you're emotionally invested in being RIGHT and letting other people know it. Majority of your posts have either been why other people were wrong, why your actions were justified, or how the other person is horrible. You needed to text your ex roommate because you needed her to understand your side of things. Even your DM style shows this.LET IT GO. And not just on a "I'll just avoid bringing it up verbally" level, but become a bigger person. Little differences like this shouldn't matter. We're all human, so they ultimately do, but recognize that this is a petty character flaw that can bring out the worst in anyone. You've let something like this fester and eat at you for months. Time to let that stop.In regards to this situation, she's got a good head on her shoulders. Good for her.Owning up to a personality flaw doesn't excuse it causing altercations. This is akin to saying "well, we got in a brawl, but I'm just an a**hole who likes punching people." I'm not telling you to fix yourself, but you really need to take responsibility for problems that your personality causes. The first step is a sincere apology. The second is finding a way to avoid future problems, if you're not willing to work on that aspect of yourself.To paraphrase a cliche: yes, he may be a mouthbreathing knuckle dragging moron with the social grace of a particularly boorish gorilla. But what does that make you for 1) trying to argue with him, and 2) putting yourself in situations where you're likely to clash with him?The reason I'm bringing this up is because you're going to cause future frissons with your attitude. It may not be as dramatic and obvious as some dudebro storming out of a game store, but they will be there. Your writing has hints of being more than a little judgmental and dismissive. There's a subtle difference between you saying "well, some of them aren't as focused on roleplaying", and One is stating a difference, the other is casting a personal value judgment on their qualifications to play with you.</blockquote>

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