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Message: <blockquote data-quote="nakia" data-source="post: 1945921" data-attributes="member: 25747">I get what your saying.  I feel the tension between the creative and the "practical" frequently.  Sometimes that tension, combined with other factors, puts me in the same place it sounds as if you are at.I was seriously helped by talking to a professional.  It wasn't some long term thing, just a few months of hour-a-week sessions.  It was great just to have someone devoted entirely to listening to you, if only for an hour a week, and addressing your needs and feelings.   It also helped that this person was not my wife or loved one.  That sounds odd, and I never told the counselor anything I did not or had not shared with my wife, but the personal distance between the counselor and myself gave some perspective you don't get with folks that are closer to you.  I find I feel better, when I get in those emotional spaces you are talking about, if I make myself do something productive.  It's hard, because you don't feel like doing anything creative or productive, but otherwise I'd just enter this downward spiral of suck -- not doing anything, then feeling bad about not doing anything, which makes it harder to get off my butt to do anything, etc.  And watching six hours of "The Real World" is not good for anyone's emotional state. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" />   So, I'll make myself write, even if it turns out to be crap, or read some poetry, or anything that will allow me to say "look at what I did today."  Exercise is always helpful, too.Not knowing what one wants is fine.  It's the ianition caused by not trying to find out that's the real problem.Hopefully, this is helpful.  Keep us posted.</blockquote>

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