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<blockquote data-quote="Man in the Funny Hat" data-source="post: 8095462" data-attributes="member: 32740">Nitpick - this is about &quot;intra-&quot; not &quot;inter-&quot; party conflict.It's an unfortunate situation for which there is some blame for everyone - and mostly for the DM.&nbsp; If you're a lawyer questioning a witness you never ask a question you don't already know the answer to.&nbsp; If you're a DM in an RPG you never give players/PC's a choice if you're not prepared to accept it if they do - and that includes the possibility that every player/PC chooses differently than every other one and really throws the game into a tizzy.&nbsp; Individual PC's making a choice for a dark deal which has been offered, a deal that others VEHEMENTLY oppose not just for themselves but as an option for anyone else in the party - that's a landmine planted by the DM.Now I'm also of the opinion that players have an unstated obligation to SEEK ways and means for their characters with wildly differing attitudes and opinions to nonetheless continue to work together.&nbsp; You may not have signed contracts to that end, but that's what the game revolves around.&nbsp; Don't look for all the ways to make any such bump as big of an issue as it possibly can be - looking for ways to MINIMIZE the disruption to the game overall is the mark of the better player.&nbsp; Of course ANY player taking a stand of, &quot;It's my way or the highway for all OTHER players/PC's.&quot; needs to be disabused of the notion of the supreme importance of only their personal viewpoint, as well as to be reminded that this is a GAME which doesn't actually include a win/loss column and everyone can just calm the freak down and quit treating actions IN game (which haven't yet even caused hardships yet if I understand correctly) as personal attacks OUT of the game.Best way to proceed is for the DM to step up and say, &quot;I apologize.&nbsp; I messed up.&nbsp; I didn't mean to do it, but I put you all in a position to end up fiercely opposed to each other and that isn't what any of us want or need.&nbsp; So blame ME if you need to get upset with anyone, otherwise let's SORT THIS OUT before you all blow it out of proportion.&quot;</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Man in the Funny Hat, post: 8095462, member: 32740"] Nitpick - this is about "intra-" not "inter-" party conflict. It's an unfortunate situation for which there is some blame for everyone - and mostly for the DM. If you're a lawyer questioning a witness you never ask a question you don't already know the answer to. If you're a DM in an RPG you never give players/PC's a choice if you're not prepared to accept it if they do - and that includes the possibility that every player/PC chooses differently than every other one and really throws the game into a tizzy. Individual PC's making a choice for a dark deal which has been offered, a deal that others VEHEMENTLY oppose not just for themselves but as an option for anyone else in the party - that's a landmine planted by the DM. Now I'm also of the opinion that players have an unstated obligation to SEEK ways and means for their characters with wildly differing attitudes and opinions to nonetheless continue to work together. You may not have signed contracts to that end, but that's what the game revolves around. Don't look for all the ways to make any such bump as big of an issue as it possibly can be - looking for ways to MINIMIZE the disruption to the game overall is the mark of the better player. Of course ANY player taking a stand of, "It's my way or the highway for all OTHER players/PC's." needs to be disabused of the notion of the [I]supreme [/I]importance of [I]only[/I] their personal viewpoint, as well as to be reminded that this is a GAME which doesn't actually include a win/loss column and everyone can just calm the freak down and quit treating actions IN game (which haven't yet even caused [I]hardships[/I] yet if I understand correctly) as personal attacks OUT of the game. Best way to proceed is for the DM to step up and say, "I apologize. I messed up. I didn't mean to do it, but I put you all in a position to end up fiercely opposed to each other and that isn't what any of us want or need. So blame ME if you need to get upset with anyone, otherwise let's SORT THIS OUT before [U]you[/U] all blow it out of proportion." [/QUOTE]

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