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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Elf Witch" data-source="post: 6700684" data-attributes="member: 9037">I know that she has been having issues dealing with the death of her husband last year. I have been there for her all through this. I understand she is emotional. But this was way over the top extreme behavior. At this point I am worried that she needs professional help, that she is in a major crisis and while I feel bad that a game caused her such unhappiness I also recognize that I really didn't do anything wrong to her. I have known her for years and I do enjoy her company though I have always fond her to be a little bit of a drama queen though nothing as bad as this. I had never played with her before because I am a fantasy player mainly DnD with a little Shadowrun thrown in. She prefers things like World of Darkness, Champions, Buffy. I did have a conversation with another friend a former DM of hers today who saw the post before she took down her entire account and he has told me that she has never been this extreme but she has thrown crying fits and what he called tantrums over character death and if she felt her character was treated in a way she didn't like. In the best of times she has an issue separating herself from her PCs. And allowed in game stuff to effect friendships. She feels what you do to her character you do to her. I have known players like this and I honestly feel that maybe role playing is not a healthy hobby for people like this. I think it is great to care about your PC. I admit to shedding tears over a couple I had played for a long time and who died. One of my very favorite PCs died when a beholder turned all his eye stalks on her. I made every saving throw except the last one which was disintegration. That was permanent death. I excused myself from the table and went had a little cry in the bathroom and then washed my face and came back out and started thinking about a new character.I agree that you need to take your players feelings into consideration when dealing with their PCs when they leave a game. Asking what they would like done with them, it is great if you can in their last session role play out their leaving. On the other hand a player who quits a game with little notice should not always expect the best outcome. As I said my other players were already pissed over the way the other players left the game. Not because they left but the way they gave us no warning, no discussion and waited to right before we set to play again. These players are my priority after all they are staying in the game they hate hand waving things away that don't make sense to the plot as it stands. They would have been unhappy if I had done that. The two players I had disappear with another faction, who one day will make an appearance as NPCs, made sense they made no secret that their characters were aligned with the Fey. But the other character's entire back story and reason for being with the party was that she had been having visions since she was a child about an dangerous rise of evil and has known her destiny was to fight it and aid the cleric of Torm who she has searched for all over Faerun. She made this background her first words in the game were to the cleric was " I have searched for you I am here to aid you in your fight" So how do I handle her just disappearing do I have her leave a note oops wrong cleric or Torm? I didn't want to have her kidnapped and the party go off looking for her and I didn't want a NPC that was a permanent member of the party. So I figured out a way to keep her around so she can aid the cleric by making her soul into an artifact.</blockquote>

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