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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Humanophile" data-source="post: 1700250" data-attributes="member: 1049">I used to have a long list of what I'd want in an ideal mate.  Every time I've met a chart-topper, though, some of my "must haves" were shattered.  That, plus I like some surprises, so I'd be quite content to let the computer randomize some of the variables.  But for some parameters, here goes;Looks:  I tend to fall hardest for the "girl next door" type.  "Roving therapist type" might be a good description too.  Both appearance and attitude make her the type of gal who total strangers come up to and share "I've never told anyone this, but..." things with.Big eyes help a lot.  Historically, blondes have been all my important firsts, but I don't really have any of those left.  Hair length is a trickier issue; blondes or light redheads can pull it off in a shaggy paigeboy cut, otherwise it has to be shoulder to mid back length.  (Blondes and redheads can do that too, I'm not going to mind.)  Build-wise, she has to be active (I don't mind a little weight, I do mind jiggling where she shouldn't), preferably a gymnasts build, and just a tad on the short side; 5'4 to 5'6 is about right.  And I hate to admit this, but I only date white gals.  Never found other races that attractive.Personality:  First and foremost.  She has to read for fun, and she has to be able to hold up her end of a conversation.  If she's not fun to talk to, nothing else can make up for that.  Along the same lines, she has to be active.  I'll help take her out at times, but I've learned my lessons about girls who insist that I be the sole engine of activity.  (She also always has to see us as friends first and foremost.  Girls who insist that either of us is going to "save" the other or insist that the boy/girl has certain obligations get dumped fast.)She has to be open and upfront.  I'm not the type to demand that I know what she does all the time, but I want her to be the type who tells me anyways.  Not out of paranoia, but because she actually has the right attitude to look on the bright side of everything, and makes listening to her day interesting.  She'll be highly emotional but overall good-natured, letting bad moods out of her system easily.  (I had an ex who did that, called me to task when I did bad and let me off after reading me the riot act, that "upfront plus forgiving" is perfect.)Background:  I'd kind of like to date older for a change; I'm 25, so 26-27 seems good.  I'd be fine with down to 21 like most girls I date, though.  Below that I'd feel kinda creepy, above 30 or so and I wouldn't have much to relate to.  Never married, no kids:  Those are absolutes.  No real creepy sex history either.  Virgin would be nice, but it's tremendously hard to find one who has a realistic attitude towards sex and relationships, so 2-3, maybe 4 prior boyfriends/sex partners.  No high kink or records of her sexual history, though.  (I dated a girl with videos out.  Wasn't pretty.)  I dislike tattoos and extreme piercings.  Basically, has to look nice and normal, and not too much strange baggage.  Has to have her own life, and realizes that codependency is a bad thing.  And that's all I can think of for now.</blockquote>

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