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Message: <blockquote data-quote="papastebu" data-source="post: 5502115" data-attributes="member: 40894">When I posted this, originally, I let the unconsidered words of one person drive me away from the site, here. I have only visited a couple of times since, and this is the first time I have read the thread through to its conclusion. I cannot say enough how the outpouring of sympathy and kindness has affected me: I am deeply touched, and for those of you who spoke of loss, also, I am sorry for your pain.My mother's death made me realize many things. One of those was that life is too damned short to be carrying around resentment about old injuries, real or imagined. This is something that I have been trying to overcome for as long as I can remember, and I may never be past it, but it's gotten easier, since. To franktheDM, I forgive you.My dad died on December 9th, last. I feel like the only thing that was actually keeping him cohesive and coherent was taking care of my mother. I did use the time between their deaths better than I had, before. I spoke to my dad as often as I could manage, and we had some good talks. I even got the chance to see him on Thanksgiving. I stayed in their house for several days, then.When my sister, who lives in St. Louis near them, called that morning, I knew what she was going to say before she said it.The odd thing about the whole ordeal is that it wasn't as much of one as I thought it would be, aside from the initial shock. After screaming myself hoarse for about thirty minutes on the morning of my mother's death, I was pretty OK most of the time. My father was a sense of relief. Not because of anything bad, except that all last year I kept waiting for the other shoe to drop, and that was it. Past a certain point, I don't think that Mom and Dad were supposed to be apart. I believe that they are not, anymore. And whether I am correct in my belief that there is an afterlife, or not, I know that neither of these people whose words and music and wisdom and experience and resolve---whose lives---informed every aspect of my own, whether I knew of it or not, neither of them are suffering, the cares of the world are no hindrance to them, and if there is a heaven, then they are in it, and they are together, as they should be.I apologize for stepping on the no religion rule.</blockquote>

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